The living self has one purpose only: to come into its own fullness of being, as a tree comes into full blossom, or a bird into spring beauty, or a tiger into lustre. ~D.H. Lawrence
There seems to be a divide in how we’re taught to work with our own emotions.
On one end of the spectrum, there are those who feel it’s essential to fully and deeply feel our feelings and share our stories of pain and suffering.
On the other, there are those who believe the only way around pain is to stop and change directions in the moment, quickly choosing a new thought or feeling.
And then there’s those of us who embrace the middle ground and find merits in both schools of thought.
I had the opportunity to embody this middle ground on my birthday just this past week, a day filled with love, celebration, appreciation…as well as tears, loneliness, and doubts about my own abilities and choices in life.
Earlier that day, I had scheduled time for reflection, but as I cozied up on the couch in my office with journal in hand, I found myself being moved to tears.
That old ego voice tried to jump in and judge my feelings, but I intuitively knew that the energy of “judgement” wasn’t going to help me work through it, so I refused to listen to that voice, and I stayed present.
You might be wondering why, why was I crying on this amazing day of celebration in my life…but honestly, what’s most helpful for me (and hopefully you), is to shift the attention away from “the story” because it’s almost never worth the energy (no matter how compelling that story might be).
The interesting thing about emotions is that when we truly feel them, without hooking into the story, they usually transform within 90 seconds to something new, so I gave myself 90 seconds, again and again, as each new emotion welled up and moved through me.
By staying present with it all, I recognized that just as my feelings were shifting, changing, flowing from one into another, so would my life experiences…impermanence truly is a gift.
Everything changes, that is, except for the core of who I am: LOVE, that Divine energy that flows through all of us.
I understood that even the tears and pain and frustration that I was feeling was, in its own way, an expression of this love. In that moment of acceptance, the switch flipped, and my mind found a new focus, creating meaning where there was only confusion before.
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I recently began working with a new mentorship client who shared with me that she’s finally found happiness…but it’s fleeting. I immediately congratulated her on recognizing one of the deepest truths about our experience – that is is ALL fleeting.
The good, the seemingly bad, the highs, the lows…when we fully allow ourselves to accept this, we can embrace coming into our own fullness of being, and lovingly focus on what is within our control: the energy we give to each passing moment.
I’d love to guide you to a deeper understanding of your own life experience, so I invite you to join me tomorrow, August 7th at 630 PM PST / 930 PM EST in my free Monthly Master Class & Meditation Series!
This month’s topic is “You Are Not Your Thoughts” and I’ll share intuitive insights and processes to help you work with your thoughts more easily, then lead you through a short guided meditation to anchor in a deeper understanding.
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