As a coach, I am so lucky to work with clients who are ready to truly embrace their role in creating the lives they want to live.
I believe they were able to make big changes in their lives (and that you can too if you so choose!) because they committed to practices that brought both awareness AND action to the mind, body, and soul.
Of course the reason they connected with me and cultivated a support team was because there was something that kept them from where they wanted to be in the first place.
That “something” is Fear.
You’re probably thinking to yourself – well, duh, Sabrina, I could have told you that.
We’re all pretty aware that fear is what holds us back, and many of us are fairly intimate with those fears and stories specific to our own lives.
But what we may not be consciously aware of is that nearly ALL of the time, this fear is SELF-inflicted.
We are the ones keeping ourselves “stuck” and aren’t the victims of anything except letting the wrong voice in our heads run the show.
Yes, I said voice in our heads, and yes I am implying that there is more than one.
And no, I’m not saying we’re all schizophrenic. 😉
What I do believe is that we all have 2 distinct voices that we can choose to listen to throughout our lives, and that becoming aware of these 2 voices and of this choice is absolute best thing you can do to change your life.
The first voice is the one we are most familiar with…that is the voice of our ego.
It’s the voice that says:
“You’re not ______________ enough.”
“You’re not as good as _________________.”
Or maybe yours says something entirely different.
You may know this voice though less by the content and more by the tone – it has the tone of fear underneath it all.
You can also distinguish this voice for the way that you feel in your body when you hear one of these lies – pain and discomfort go hand in hand with fear.
Then there’s the other voice…the voice of our intuition.
For many of us, this voice is quiet – sometimes even just a whisper.
“I can do that.”
“I’m more than enough.”
“I’m just as blessed and gifted as _________.”
Just as the voice of the ego has the tone of fear running under it all, the voice of the intuition has the tone of love coursing beneath.
Your body will let you know if what you are hearing from this voice is truth because it will often leave you buzzing, or feeling lighter, or sometimes like you’ve breathed a big sigh.
And here’s why the voice of your intuition always speaks the language of love:
The voice of your intuition is the voice of your soul, connected to that infinite source of love through all time and space.
You are born with your intuitive voice but your ego voice comes with this physical experience here in this lifetime. So when it comes to our experiences right now, they are 2 sides of the same coin, but not in the “good versus evil” sense – more like the yin versus yang sense.
In fact, I don’t believe your ego voice needs to be crushed or killed or ignored or gotten rid of…your ego is an important part of this experience that can absolutely TEACH you if you allow it to, but it’s just been given way too much responsibility and way too much credibility along the way.
We often accept the words of our ego as truth rather than allowing those words to show us where to grow.
When I spoke at LOV/CON this year, I led the audience in one of my favorite exercises that introduce you to the voice of fear and the voice of love; click the below to play along (it only takes a couple of minutes):
Over the course of the next few months, I’ll be taking you deeper into the conversations that these 2 voices have (and how you can begin to really listen to them through both your mind AND body in order to better your life!), but in the meantime, I’d love to hear from you:
- After you’ve played along with the video above, share in the comments below the name of your ego voice and your intuitive voice – knowing that the simple act of naming it takes away the power and mystery and allows you to work with it more easily!
- What is one of _____________’s (insert your ego’s name here) favorite self-limiting stories? And what does _____________ (insert your intuition’s name here) say in response to your ego’s story?