As a coach, I am so lucky to work with clients who are ready to truly embrace their role in creating the lives they want to live.
I believe they were able to make big changes in their lives (and that you can too if you so choose!) because they committed to practices that brought both awareness AND action to the mind, body, and soul.
Of course the reason they connected with me and cultivated a support team was because there was something that kept them from where they wanted to be in the first place.
That “something” is Fear.
You’re probably thinking to yourself – well, duh, Sabrina, I could have told you that.
We’re all pretty aware that fear is what holds us back, and many of us are fairly intimate with those fears and stories specific to our own lives.
But what we may not be consciously aware of is that nearly ALL of the time, this fear is SELF-inflicted.
We are the ones keeping ourselves “stuck” and aren’t the victims of anything except letting the wrong voice in our heads run the show.
Yes, I said voice in our heads, and yes I am implying that there is more than one.
And no, I’m not saying we’re all schizophrenic. 😉
What I do believe is that we all have 2 distinct voices that we can choose to listen to throughout our lives, and that becoming aware of these 2 voices and of this choice is absolute best thing you can do to change your life.
The first voice is the one we are most familiar with…that is the voice of our ego.
It’s the voice that says:
“You can’t.”
“You’re not ______________ enough.”
“You’re not as good as _________________.”
“You’re alone.”
Or maybe yours says something entirely different.
You may know this voice though less by the content and more by the tone – it has the tone of fear underneath it all.
You can also distinguish this voice for the way that you feel in your body when you hear one of these lies – pain and discomfort go hand in hand with fear.
Then there’s the other voice…the voice of our intuition.
For many of us, this voice is quiet – sometimes even just a whisper.
It says:
“I can do that.”
“I’m more than enough.”
“I’m just as blessed and gifted as _________.”
“I’m connected.”
Just as the voice of the ego has the tone of fear running under it all, the voice of the intuition has the tone of love coursing beneath.
Your body will let you know if what you are hearing from this voice is truth because it will often leave you buzzing, or feeling lighter, or sometimes like you’ve breathed a big sigh.
And here’s why the voice of your intuition always speaks the language of love:
The voice of your intuition is the voice of your soul, connected to that infinite source of love through all time and space.
You are born with your intuitive voice but your ego voice comes with this physical experience here in this lifetime. So when it comes to our experiences right now, they are 2 sides of the same coin, but not in the “good versus evil” sense – more like the yin versus yang sense.
In fact, I don’t believe your ego voice needs to be crushed or killed or ignored or gotten rid of…your ego is an important part of this experience that can absolutely TEACH you if you allow it to, but it’s just been given way too much responsibility and way too much credibility along the way.
We often accept the words of our ego as truth rather than allowing those words to show us where to grow.
When I spoke at LOV/CON this year, I led the audience in one of my favorite exercises that introduce you to the voice of fear and the voice of love; click the below to play along (it only takes a couple of minutes):
How to Meet your Intuition and Meet your Ego
Over the course of the next few months, I’ll be taking you deeper into the conversations that these 2 voices have (and how you can begin to really listen to them through both your mind AND body in order to better your life!), but in the meantime, I’d love to hear from you:
- After you’ve played along with the video above, share in the comments below the name of your ego voice and your intuitive voice – knowing that the simple act of naming it takes away the power and mystery and allows you to work with it more easily!
- What is one of _____________’s (insert your ego’s name here) favorite self-limiting stories? And what does _____________ (insert your intuition’s name here) say in response to your ego’s story?
I am a Soul Alignment Coach, guiding clients to shift from overwhelm and self-doubt to resiliency and flow so that they can create the impactful lives that their souls intended. I live and work in the heart of Los Angeles, but connect virtually with clients around the world.
Love the video Sabrina! I’ve got my names now – I’m good to go!
Lori
Thank you, Lori! I would love to hear what they are – “Astrid” and “Shanaynay” always likes making new friends ;).
Beautiful!
Thank you, Shannon – so lovely to see you here! What does your “ego voice” go by – and has he been telling you any lies lately?
I don’t have a name, but so many lies. The usual ones: give up, what do you even have to offer?, you’re a fraud.
Oh I know those ego stories all too well! Here’s to listening to that intuitive voice as it shines light on those false stories so that you can learn the lessons and move through them!
My devil voice is Cruella. My angel voice is Beautiful. One of Cruella’s favorite stories is that I have nothing to say or that I’ll mess up when I speak/express. Beautiful says that I have lots to say/share and that I’m strong, eloquent, beautiful and clear when I speak/express.
Oh I love your devil and angel names, Leanne – thanks for playing along!
And it sounds like “Beautiful” speaks the truth – sending you tons of love and support as you continue listening to her so you can boldly share your message with the world :).
Thanks, Sabrina!
I’ve discovered that it’s not usually failure that keeps people from achieving what they want in life, it’s the FEAR of failure. That fear is a tiny enemy that can throw a big punch. And people remained paralyzed by it. If people can learn to let their faith be bigger than that fear, it is not only liberating, but it is energy-inducing as well. Great thoughts, Sabrina.
Brilliant point, Bryan! I love how you call fear a “tiny enemy” – it truly acts like a little Napoleon, doesn’t it? I like to visualize my ego voice as a toddler throwing a tantrum. Of course I don’t hate the toddler nor do I plan on yelling at it to shut up. In fact, usually the toddler just wants to be heard out. Do I take action on what it has to say? Nope – but I allow it to quiet down and acknowledge it before listening to that wise voice of my intuition :).
Thank you so much for stopping by and joining in the conversation today.
My ego’s name is Lynne while my intuition is Angel. Lynne is always telling me to “forget about it” or “don’t bother” whenever I have ideas. I need Angel to remind me that “If I don’t try I will never know” and “I just need to take the first step to make it all fall into place”
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Lovely to meet you, Cassie, Lynne, and Angel! 😉
Angel’s messages are so specific and the perfect rebuttal to Lynne’s stories – thanks for playing along!
Wow! Yes, this is such a struggle. I find that I need constant insightful reminders to bring me to that place of remembering these truths. Thanks : )
You make a great point, Court – even those of us in the healing and coaching profession can use these reminders which is why it’s so important to surround ourselves with a tribe willing to remind us!
All your posts speak to me, and this one especially so. And what a great photograph!
Thank you, Roger – it means so much to me to know that I am offering insights that are truly valuable in your life!
And thank you for the compliment on the pic as well; I get intuitively inspired for some of the setups, but real credit has to go to my man who executes my ideas so perfectly :).
I think people have more voices. Play along… what about when we role play to learn and practice to be the particular type of ego we are choosing to play? Is it the intuition teaching us to learn to be truly authentic?
I agree Joe that it feels like we have a multitude of voices (with accompanying stories!) – I like to call them “masks” that the ego wears, as it is continually taking on personas to trick us into believing it knows what’s best.
And I would say YES to your question about the intuitive voice – that is exactly one of its biggest lessons!