Sometimes, no matter how well we organize, how intently we plan, how hard we work…things don’t go the way we expect them to. Sometimes, we just need to make peace with what is and embrace a fresh start.
I was reminded of this lesson quite recently…just a few days ago to be exact.
You might remember me mention that I was creating a new website for MyMiBoSo. This was an undertaking that I had begun about 3 months ago with the intention of creating a more welcoming space for my visitors to get insights and love, whenever they needed it the most, as well as give more clarity around what I offer my clients as a life coach.
I had set goals for myself to launch my new site by a certain date, and those goals kept getting pushed forward a month…and another…and another, until I realized I could no longer push my launch date forward because my own sense of integrity simply wouldn’t let me.
I had promised my readers (and myself!) a new website, so that was exactly what I was going to give them.
The 31st of December rolls around, and I realize that this is it – the time is NOW. If I was going to honor my word and launch this site by the new year, today was the day to wrap it all up.
So I hustled and got into my flow, seeing the end in sight, until 4 AM on New Year’s Day when it felt complete. My masterpiece was finished, so to speak…or at least as finished as I wanted it to be for the launch (as my dad often reminds me, “the final edit is never done”).
I had a 7 AM appointment so I got a few hours of sleep (a lot fewer than my body usually prefers), and was looking forward to one last step before sending the exciting announcement that MyMiBoSo was ready to share with the world.
And that’s where it seemingly feel apart.
What should have been a relatively simple process got ridiculously tangled, to the point where it looked like I had lost not only my NEW website but also all of the old one.
That one last step proved to be the universe’s call for me to wake back up and re-learn my lesson on expectations as my ego grabbed the situation and tried to crush me with it, spinning me out of control with doomsday thinking.
But fortunately the work that I have lovingly done for my own growth allowed me to still hear that small voice of my intuition, reminding me that:
a) No one was hurt
b) A lack of sleep makes everything weigh heavier on my mind
c) It all really would work out, even if I didn’t understand HOW right then
And then the universe and my intuition reminded me of one more beautiful truth while out taking an evening walk with my man:
This perceived “tragedy” was truly my opportunity for a fresh start.
How often do we really recognize what a gift a fresh start can be in our lives?
So often we chug along, thinking we’re “on track,” but in reality we are missing opportunities to stretch, to grow.
But what does a fresh start really mean?
CLICK TO TWEET>> A fresh start means you have the opportunity to hit the reset button in your mind & make peace with what is.<<CLICK TO TWEET
So much of our conflict in life comes from arguing with what is (one of the foundations of Byron Katie’s message), and we can create our own fresh start when we choose to remember and take action on this truth.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t create change in our life, but it does mean that we can initiate and embrace change with more ease and grace. From that space of acceptance, your energy is more aligned and your head becomes clear enough to take inspired action toward something new.
So with my fresh start in thinking, I was able to come back to my website with a clearer mind and better energy, accepting exactly “what is” before trying to move forward. In doing so I was able to pick up the pieces, and after many hours of work with my tech support team, I was able to not only move forward, but do so from a place of peace.
So welcome, my kind readers, to the new, freshened up MyMiBoSo website!
I am a Soul Alignment Coach, guiding clients to shift from overwhelm and self-doubt to resiliency and flow so that they can create the impactful lives that their souls intended. I live and work in the heart of Los Angeles, but connect virtually with clients around the world.
I love your new site, I love your message to stop ressisting life, I love your courage, perseverance and strength to make this site happen and most of all I love YOU. Thank you for being such a beautiful and important person in my life. -Bern
Bern, you are SUCH a kind soul whose support has been instrumental in all that I’ve been able to manifest thus far – so thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you do and all that you ARE!
Congrats on the lovely new site! Your laboratory were not in vain:)
I’m not wantin to share with all the blogosphere (although I’ve told you some of it in our coaching) what changes I’m having problems with at the moment, but thank you for the reminder that maybe I should think if things less as terrifying changes and more as fresh starts…
Thank you so much for ALL of your amazing support Ellen! I’m so happy you like what I’ve created in the site!
And you are not alone in getting side swept by CHANGE – it’s a scary word for most of us (myself included!) and so much of my coaching practice is simply living out my own mistakes so that I can share it more deeply with my clients and readers. I’m here to support you whenever you need it!
Beautiful new site! Nice Post. I retweeted. This year I am going to look at service in an expanded view! ~Cathy
Thank you so much Cathy for the kind feedback on the site and for sharing my insights for the new year! I love your intention at looking at service in a new way – sounds like a great fresh start in thinking!
Congrats on the lovely new site! My gosh those are good questions, will have to think about it some more!
Thank you so much Marinda! And keep me posted on where you would like to embrace a fresh start – I’d love to support you!
I’m so glad it all worked out for you. Technology can be incredibly glitchy and that’s probably why I have put off revamping my website until I gain further clarity.
Thank you Patti! It truly is about balancing being prepared and making peace with the idea that there will always be something you simply can’t prepare for :). Let me know if I can support you in any way as you create your own “fresh start”!
Great sharing. I’ve found that taking a step back and having some valuable breathing space solves any challenge. The more I practise that the more it becomes my first default setting. <3 your definition of a fresh start. It's very powerful and reminds me why I love fresh starts! Thank you 🙂
Tabitha, thank you for your wise insights! You make such a great point that practice indeed makes all the difference in approaching a fresh start with more ease! In fact I firmly believe that I wouldn’t have seen the opportunity in my fresh start clearly if it weren’t for my meditation practice-just one more reason to continue dedicating time to stillness every day!
Hi Sabrina,
I admire your handling of the computer fiasco! I’m sure I would not have handled it as well. “Accepting what is” is a great mantra in life. It’s one I’m working on. It’s a one-day-at-a-time process, one in which I am amazed when I find I’m okay. Of course I’m referring to my son’s death in August. He died but incredibly, I survived. Staying where I am is just too painful – so I move forward, grasp my passion, determine to make my mark and make my wonderful son proud.
There are things I have to do to take care of his affairs and I don’t relish the thought. But I’m spreading them out so they aren’t overwhelming and planning to finish them all by mid February if possible.
Lori
Lori, thank you so much for sharing this.
You continue to inspire me with your ability to be completely honest with your own pain…yet are able to do so without indulging or dwelling in it more than your spirit wants to (as our spirits truly do crave a fresh start when the pain no longer serves us).
I am moved by your recognition that your son would indeed by so proud of his amazing mother by the way she continues to make her mark in this world, spreading the messages of strength in community and the power in choosing our words to choose our joy.
You are supported as you continue to create peace through your pain one step at a time, in this moment, and I’m so grateful to know you!
I love your new site Sabrina, and this post is just gorgeous! I often need to step away from what I’m doing in order to see things in a new refreshed light too. I’m looking so forward to having a peek around your site and reading more posts from you!
Thank you so much Cyndi for your kind feedback on both the site and my words! Enjoy your little tour around the site, and I trust you feel the energetic “welcome mat” I’ve laid out!
Hmm. If I stop resisting what I have, then I will have more energy for the new. I know exactly where to apply this in my life. Thanks for the excellent post, Sabrina!
I love the way you put it Marie! Yes, indeed, energy can flow wherever we direct it to flow – whether that is resisting what we don’t want or focusing on creating a fresh start with what we DO want! Thank you so much for stopping by and for sharing!
a beautiful new year to you! and love your new website, and your loving approach to accepting what is. sometimes not so easy, especially when dealing with technical challenges.
Thank you so much for the sweet feedback Claire! I’m excited to check out YOUR latest post – looks like we all had a bit of unraveling to deal with this holiday :).
first of all, happy new year + I LOVE your new site. It’s so fresh, clean and spacious. Congrats!! i have definitely been in a place of resistance for the last few months. i’m embarking on several new creative projects and find myself doing all sorts of fun things to procrastinate, avoid and numb out. Thanks for this reminder to accept what is. Even the procrastination has something to teach me I suppose. 🙂
Hello Stephanie, and happy new year to you too!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for the kind words on the new site – I really appreciate it!
I love that my message has helped you create the meaning in all of “what is” – even the procrastination – our best lessons often come from the most surprising places :).
What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing the wisdom that came from your experience Sabrina! I love the new year, it feels like the first page of a brand new notebook (stationary geek here).
I was resisting the need to slow down. Everything has been so hectic with building my business and redesigning two website over the last six months that it was hard to calm down after that, but now that I have – I am loving it. 🙂
So happy to see you here Kimberley – and thank you for the insightful comment! And HUGE congratulations on YOUR new website redesigns and all of the beautiful growth in your businesses!
I love the point you bring up – that life isn’t necessarily always about being “zen” but rather coming home to our peace after we’ve allowed the energy to burst forth from us! Life doesn’t necessarily always have to be slow – if it were, we may not appreciate it as much, would we?
This is a lovely post Sabrina and your site is beautiful. And yes, lack of sleep (and the flu) makes everything so much heavier. I’ve moved really slowly into the New Year, because of the flu, and you know what, it’s all good!
I love the peace you’ve cultivated around taking things slowly, Christie! It goes against the grain of what society leads us to believe is important – namely, doing it all faster! You’re an inspiration to me and my readers as you continue to listen to your own mind, body, and soul moving into the New Year :).