How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

 

In life, we are often faced with complex decisions, and for many of us, it’s paralyzing when we can’t seem to just make a choice.

And let’s face it…making choices is the very nature of our day-to-day life.

Some choices come easier than others, but some of those choices are wrapped up in so many layers that we believe the direction we choose could forever alter the course of our lives, creating irreparable havoc on our path.

And I believe that there is only partial truth in this…every choice we make does alter the course, but often in ways that take us exactly where we need to be to learn and grow through life’s lessons.

The biggest fear that usually pops into mind when faced with one of these big decisions is:

What if I make the wrong choice?

To that question, I invite you to try on this instead:

What if there was no such thing as the wrong choice?

For it’s only when we shift perspective that we begin to see all sides of the challenges – AND opportunities – before us.

 

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It’s ALL energy, so your first priority is to shift your energy so that you can make the choice that feels most aligned for you in that moment.

This is why it is always my goal in my own life and when working with my coaching clients to guide them to release the heaviness around making that choice, because when you do, you feel lighter, more open, and ultimately less attached to the outcome.

One way to shift this energy is to work with the images in your mind to “defuse” the charge you feel around the possible outcomes from making the choice.

Our ego minds often take us to the extremes of the “worst possible scenario” when stuck in indecision, so rather than deny the images that pop up in our mind, it better serves us to actually work with them.

So read the below exercise (one of the many I guide my coaching and hypnotherapy clients through), then try it on for yourself:

Step 1: Close your eyes and allow yourself to think about that “worst possible scenario” and notice what image pops into mind (as our brain is always sending us little images and mini-movie clips connected to our thoughts and feelings)

Step 2: Begin to play with the image you see. Imagine it is on one of those old tube TVs. Change the image to black and white. See it as dark and fuzzy. And then finally send it all the way to the corner of the room where you need to squint to still see it.

Step 3: Now imagine that “best possible scenario” from making this choice and notice what image pops into mind.

Step 4: Charge that image up by making it panoramic, wrapped all around, Imax size so it fills an entire stadium. Turn up the brightness so it’s HD quality…then 3D quality so the image floats out of the screen so you could touch it.

Step 5: Float into that image, seeing what you see and hearing what you hear, and noticing how good it feels to embody that best case scenario.

Step 6: Then imagine floating back out, take a nice easy breath, and open your eyes.

Interesting how the mind and energy works, isn’t it?

From this new space, you will feel less charge around that fear and more empowered by the possibility – so the choice itself will often become clearer and much easier to make.

So TRUST yourself – and the Universe to support you.

Release illusion of control around the outcome.

And sink deeply into the now where everything is happening exactly as it’s meant to.

I’d love to hear from you: What did you notice when trying the exercise above? And what other tools or perspectives help you make a choice when stuck in indecision?

P.S.

I believe so fully in the power of choice that the heart of my coaching practice focuses on guiding you to strengthen the ultimate “choice-maker” – your intuitive voice that can guide you through it all. If you need support strengthening yours, I invite you to learn more below about how I can help below:

http://www.sabrinabolin.com/work-with-me/