In life, we are often faced with complex decisions, and for many of us, it’s paralyzing when we can’t seem to just make a choice.
And let’s face it…making choices is the very nature of our day-to-day life.
Some choices come easier than others, but some of those choices are wrapped up in so many layers that we believe the direction we choose could forever alter the course of our lives, creating irreparable havoc on our path.
And I believe that there is only partial truth in this…every choice we make does alter the course, but often in ways that take us exactly where we need to be to learn and grow through life’s lessons.
The biggest fear that usually pops into mind when faced with one of these big decisions is:
What if I make the wrong choice?
To that question, I invite you to try on this instead:
What if there was no such thing as the wrong choice?
For it’s only when we shift perspective that we begin to see all sides of the challenges – AND opportunities – before us.
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It’s ALL energy, so your first priority is to shift your energy so that you can make the choice that feels most aligned for you in that moment.
This is why it is always my goal in my own life and when working with my coaching clients to guide them to release the heaviness around making that choice, because when you do, you feel lighter, more open, and ultimately less attached to the outcome.
One way to shift this energy is to work with the images in your mind to “defuse” the charge you feel around the possible outcomes from making the choice.
Our ego minds often take us to the extremes of the “worst possible scenario” when stuck in indecision, so rather than deny the images that pop up in our mind, it better serves us to actually work with them.
So read the below exercise (one of the many I guide my coaching and hypnotherapy clients through), then try it on for yourself:
Step 1: Close your eyes and allow yourself to think about that “worst possible scenario” and notice what image pops into mind (as our brain is always sending us little images and mini-movie clips connected to our thoughts and feelings)
Step 2: Begin to play with the image you see. Imagine it is on one of those old tube TVs. Change the image to black and white. See it as dark and fuzzy. And then finally send it all the way to the corner of the room where you need to squint to still see it.
Step 3: Now imagine that “best possible scenario” from making this choice and notice what image pops into mind.
Step 4: Charge that image up by making it panoramic, wrapped all around, Imax size so it fills an entire stadium. Turn up the brightness so it’s HD quality…then 3D quality so the image floats out of the screen so you could touch it.
Step 5: Float into that image, seeing what you see and hearing what you hear, and noticing how good it feels to embody that best case scenario.
Step 6: Then imagine floating back out, take a nice easy breath, and open your eyes.
Interesting how the mind and energy works, isn’t it?
From this new space, you will feel less charge around that fear and more empowered by the possibility – so the choice itself will often become clearer and much easier to make.
So TRUST yourself – and the Universe to support you.
Release illusion of control around the outcome.
And sink deeply into the now where everything is happening exactly as it’s meant to.
I’d love to hear from you: What did you notice when trying the exercise above? And what other tools or perspectives help you make a choice when stuck in indecision?
I believe so fully in the power of choice that the heart of my coaching practice focuses on guiding you to strengthen the ultimate “choice-maker” – your intuitive voice that can guide you through it all. If you need support strengthening yours, I invite you to learn more below about how I can help below:
Coming back to the blog makes me feel like a bear coming out of hibernation…a bit sluggish and very hungry. Except I’m not hungry for food – I crave connection to share all the insights that have been brewing inside.
Where oh where have I been, you might be wondering?
For the past few months, I’ve been back here creating this new online space, getting even clearer on how I could help you move stuck energy and take intuitively inspired action. Have a look around if you haven’t already – the entire site has been spruced up with new images, clearer packages, and a more expansive energy!
Coupled with my creative play on the site, I’ve also been immersed in juicy trainings, diving deep into the world of hypnotherapy (as you can see by my new title!) as well as becoming a Certified Totemic Artist, an amazing course where I learned how animal totem wisdom can guide our intuition in fun and creative ways.
I expected to perhaps be away for a month, figuring I could balance it all in that time because – on paper – it really didn’t look like that much work.
But as often happens when we embark on anything meaningful, I hit resistance.
All of my practices kept me grounded, but my ego tried her damned best to run the show.
She made up stories about how I needed to change who I am and how I work and even who I work with to make a bigger impact in the world.
She questioned all of my choices to the point where I wasn’t even sure if I should be doing any of this at all.
And, I thought for sure she must be right…she seemed logical enough. So I entertained her ideas.
What if I stopped talking so much about intuition?
What if I just ignored it all completely?
But every time I tried to go a completely different direction or walk away from it completely, I felt my intuition tighten in my gut, what I’ve come to learn is my body’s way of saying “Hells no!”
So I realigned and got back to work…because sometimes the best antidote to resistance is pure and simple action.
I hadn’t gotten too far when my ego chimed in again, pulling out one of her oldest tricks, whispering:
“Why must you keep working so hard now? Doesn’t it all unfold in Divine time?”
Ooo, sneaky, sneaky ego. She had camouflaged herself as my intuitive voice by throwing around this idea that “Divine Time means we sit around and wait.”
And so, as always, I thanked her for she was indeed giving me an opportunity to take my own growth and understanding deeper as I explored what I truly believed.
Loud and clear, my intuition reminded me that:
Where there is resistance, there is room to grow, to move, to shift. That doesn’t mean rush or doing for the sake of doing, but it also doesn’t mean buying into the ego’s stories that to keep waiting is to follow Divine time.
Breathe into this, fully, deeply.
Because from this perfect place in this perfect moment you have the CHOICE to change direction and take inspired action toward your goals.
This is what inspired action is all about. It doesn’t matter what you could have been doing for the past month, year, or lifetime – what matters is the NOW.
I invite you to ask yourself today, starting from the now, this moment of Divine time:
What will I accept and what will I choose to change today?
Share your answer below and if this post sparked something within you, I’d love for you to share it!