a meditation to help you focus on what matters most

a meditation to help you focus on what matters most

how to focus on what matters

Creating a soul aligned life requires focus, but what to focus on in any given moment can elude us when we’re looking outside ourselves for the answers.

Where we get tripped up is ego takes the “formulas for success” that we see outside of ourselves in other people’s lives – and then it makes us feel bad when our process and journey don’t match.

This is especially tricky in times like these, where we are so plugged into social media and the “appearances” of success, reinforced with every scroll and click.

Trust me, I fall into this trap almost every day. When I’m not being mindful, my monkey mind begins its endless chatter of how I’m not doing enough and that if I only worked harder, I could have ALL. THE. THINGS.

But when I wake up (and thankfully, I almost always do before too long), I remember that it’s less about having it all and more about experiencing the fullness of what my unique life has to offer in any given moment…even, and especially, if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

So how do we get there? By focusing on what’s important in our lives, moment by moment by moment.

Follow along with today’s guided meditation to go within and learn a process to re-focus on what’s most important in your life:

I would love to hear from you:

What is most calling for your focus and attention right now, in this moment?

Sending big love,

Sabrina

P.S.

If you need deeper support to move through heavy emotions so that you can tap into your inner resilience, I invite you to book a “Get Calm” session with me today (now a full hour long!). Details can be found at http://sabrinabolin.com/getcalm.

4 questions to help you reach your goals (most importantly, your Soul’s Goals!)

4 questions to help you reach your goals (most importantly, your Soul’s Goals!)

Fulfill your Soul's Goals

Setting goals might be easy, but actually achieving those goals? Notsomuch.

We fail to meet our goals for lots of reasons, but often the issue starts at the very beginning with the nature of the goal itself; instead of a soul’s goal, most of us set goals based on our ego’s fears rather than our soul’s true desires.

It’s easy to get tripped up when it comes to goal setting because our little minds (aka our egos) tend to focus on what we think is important based on everyone else’s standards, which doesn’t always line up with what we really want on the inside.

Trust me, I know this all too well.

My goals for most of my childhood involved working hard at school to please my parents and partying hard right after to please my friends.

I somewhat successfully maintained this intensity and commitment to a “work-hard/play-hard” lifestyle until the straw that broke this camel’s back:

As a junior Business major at Pepperdine University, I finally got my first B…and it broke me.

In hindsight, I can see how ridiculous this was, but at the moment, all I could think about was one thing:

I failed.

I had a goal, and that goal was to always be the best student in class, no matter the price. I didn’t question this goal until years later, when that same intensity led to a constant level of anxiety and near panic attacks.

It was at this point that I finally woke up, and through my own personal journey with hypnosis and opening myself to a stronger relationship with my intuition, I was finally able to understand the difference between ego’s goals and soul’s goals.

Soul’s goals are ones that marry the being with the doing and the essence of what we desire with the clear and practical vision of the potential outcomes.

In honor of this high energy time of the year, when many of us wake up on January 1st with a sense that anything is possible, I wanted to share 4 powerful questions that can help you reach your goals (and especially your soul’s goals!).

Grab something to write on, then click play on the video below:  

I would love to hear from you:

What Soul’s Goals have you set for yourself this year?

And what came through your intuition when you asked yourself the 4 questions I shared in today’s video?

I truly believe in you and what’s possible when you set your heart and mind to it…and I know that there is a part of you that believes in it too.

Trust that the more that you tune in and you listen, the more that part of you that believes is amplified and becomes the part that is truly creating this life that your soul came here to create.

Here’s to a POWERFUL new year.

Sending big love,

Sabrina

Perfectionism can be a GOOD thing.

Perfectionism can be a GOOD thing.

Imperfect perfectionist Sabrina in PJs

Where is perfectionism (or your fear of getting caught up in it) keeping you from showing up fully in your life?

On the flipside, have you ever thought about how the light side of perfectionism has actually helped you achieve what you might not have otherwise?

I believe every aspect of ourselves contains both a light and shadow side; we live in a world of duality after all, with two sides to every coin.

When we reject all aspects of perfectionism, we miss out on the light side of this trait that can inspire us to show up more fully in our lives.

In today’s 5-minute coaching video, I share a perspective that can help you shift your understanding of your own perfectionist tendencies (along with my own personal story of how I went from spending every morning putting rollers in my hair to leaving the house with nothing but pajamas on):

After watching, I would love to hear from you. How can you change the way you view this part of yourself so that you can feel a deeper connection to every aspect of your being?

Because I believe that it ALL serves…it’s just a matter of recognizing how.

As always, with love,

Sabrina

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

 

In life, we are often faced with complex decisions, and for many of us, it’s paralyzing when we can’t seem to just make a choice.

And let’s face it…making choices is the very nature of our day-to-day life.

Some choices come easier than others, but some of those choices are wrapped up in so many layers that we believe the direction we choose could forever alter the course of our lives, creating irreparable havoc on our path.

And I believe that there is only partial truth in this…every choice we make does alter the course, but often in ways that take us exactly where we need to be to learn and grow through life’s lessons.

The biggest fear that usually pops into mind when faced with one of these big decisions is:

What if I make the wrong choice?

To that question, I invite you to try on this instead:

What if there was no such thing as the wrong choice?

For it’s only when we shift perspective that we begin to see all sides of the challenges – AND opportunities – before us.

 

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It’s ALL energy, so your first priority is to shift your energy so that you can make the choice that feels most aligned for you in that moment.

This is why it is always my goal in my own life and when working with my coaching clients to guide them to release the heaviness around making that choice, because when you do, you feel lighter, more open, and ultimately less attached to the outcome.

One way to shift this energy is to work with the images in your mind to “defuse” the charge you feel around the possible outcomes from making the choice.

Our ego minds often take us to the extremes of the “worst possible scenario” when stuck in indecision, so rather than deny the images that pop up in our mind, it better serves us to actually work with them.

So read the below exercise (one of the many I guide my coaching and hypnotherapy clients through), then try it on for yourself:

Step 1: Close your eyes and allow yourself to think about that “worst possible scenario” and notice what image pops into mind (as our brain is always sending us little images and mini-movie clips connected to our thoughts and feelings)

Step 2: Begin to play with the image you see. Imagine it is on one of those old tube TVs. Change the image to black and white. See it as dark and fuzzy. And then finally send it all the way to the corner of the room where you need to squint to still see it.

Step 3: Now imagine that “best possible scenario” from making this choice and notice what image pops into mind.

Step 4: Charge that image up by making it panoramic, wrapped all around, Imax size so it fills an entire stadium. Turn up the brightness so it’s HD quality…then 3D quality so the image floats out of the screen so you could touch it.

Step 5: Float into that image, seeing what you see and hearing what you hear, and noticing how good it feels to embody that best case scenario.

Step 6: Then imagine floating back out, take a nice easy breath, and open your eyes.

Interesting how the mind and energy works, isn’t it?

From this new space, you will feel less charge around that fear and more empowered by the possibility – so the choice itself will often become clearer and much easier to make.

So TRUST yourself – and the Universe to support you.

Release illusion of control around the outcome.

And sink deeply into the now where everything is happening exactly as it’s meant to.

I’d love to hear from you: What did you notice when trying the exercise above? And what other tools or perspectives help you make a choice when stuck in indecision?

P.S.

I believe so fully in the power of choice that the heart of my coaching practice focuses on guiding you to strengthen the ultimate “choice-maker” – your intuitive voice that can guide you through it all. If you need support strengthening yours, I invite you to learn more below about how I can help below:

http://www.sabrinabolin.com/work-with-me/

On Resistance and Divine Time

On Resistance and Divine Time

On Resistance and Divine Time

Coming back to the blog makes me feel like a bear coming out of hibernation…a bit sluggish and very hungry. Except I’m not hungry for food – I crave connection to share all the insights that have been brewing inside.

Where oh where have I been, you might be wondering?

For the past few months, I’ve been back here creating this new online space, getting even clearer on how I could help you move stuck energy and take intuitively inspired action. Have a look around if you haven’t already – the entire site has been spruced up with new images, clearer packages, and a more expansive energy!

Coupled with my creative play on the site, I’ve also been immersed in juicy trainings, diving deep into the world of hypnotherapy (as you can see by my new title!) as well as becoming a Certified Totemic Artist, an amazing course where I learned how animal totem wisdom can guide our intuition in fun and creative ways.

I expected to perhaps be away for a month, figuring I could balance it all in that time because – on paper – it really didn’t look like that much work.

But as often happens when we embark on anything meaningful, I hit resistance.

All of my practices kept me grounded, but my ego tried her damned best to run the show.

She made up stories about how I needed to change who I am and how I work and even who I work with to make a bigger impact in the world.

She questioned all of my choices to the point where I wasn’t even sure if I should be doing any of this at all.

And, I thought for sure she must be right…she seemed logical enough. So I entertained her ideas.

What if I stopped talking so much about intuition?

What if I just ignored it all completely?

But every time I tried to go a completely different direction or walk away from it completely, I felt my intuition tighten in my gut, what I’ve come to learn is my body’s way of saying “Hells no!”

So I realigned and got back to work…because sometimes the best antidote to resistance is pure and simple action.

I hadn’t gotten too far when my ego chimed in again, pulling out one of her oldest tricks, whispering:

“Why must you keep working so hard now? Doesn’t it all unfold in Divine time?”

Ooo, sneaky, sneaky ego. She had camouflaged herself as my intuitive voice by throwing around this idea that “Divine Time means we sit around and wait.”

And so, as always, I thanked her for she was indeed giving me an opportunity to take my own growth and understanding deeper as I explored what I truly believed.

Loud and clear, my intuition reminded me that:

Where there is resistance, there is room to grow, to move, to shift. That doesn’t mean rush or doing for the sake of doing, but it also doesn’t mean buying into the ego’s stories that to keep waiting is to follow Divine time.

 

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Breathe into this, fully, deeply.

Because from this perfect place in this perfect moment you have the CHOICE to change direction and take inspired action toward your goals.

This is what inspired action is all about. It doesn’t matter what you could have been doing for the past month, year, or lifetime – what matters is the NOW.

I invite you to ask yourself today, starting from the now, this moment of Divine time:

What will I accept and what will I choose to change today?

Share your answer below and if this post sparked something within you, I’d love for you to share it!

Why Our Souls Crave Inspired Action

Why Our Souls Crave Inspired Action

Why Our Souls Crave Inspired Action

We live in a busy, busy world.

So many of us feel disconnected from our purpose, and we yearn for stillness, a little space to reconnect with our true selves.

But there has been a shift – we are reclaiming our sanity amidst the chaos.

We see it with the rising popularity of yoga and meditation – mindfulness has become a buzz word that is no longer reserved for the fringes of society and has made its way into collective consciousness.

These are blessings as we embrace this idea of balance…it’s not a myth, as some may believe.

That’s because balance is a practice and not a static state.

A balanced life doesn’t necessarily mean all the spheres of your life are in perfect balance at once but rather that attention is given to those areas that are most important in that moment and that you allow those priorities to naturally shift.

We create balance when we come home to the stillness within…when we simply be. We are after all human be-ings, a truth that I believe society at large has gotten a bit away from.

However, there is a paradox that we must come to terms with, as I do not believe that taking action is against our nature either…in fact, it is entwined in the very fabric of our being as we are co-creators of this experience in life.

Simply put, in order to create, we must take action…but not any old action.

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> Don’t just take action…forgo being busy for the sake of being busy & choose inspired action instead.<<Click to tweet

 

How then do we choose action that is from our Spirit, as that is what “inspired” means after all? (more…)