Life is about the moments.

Life is about the moments.

Father and daughter love

Life these past few years has been full, in so many ways.

In addition to my beautiful and messy transition into motherhood, I also helped my dad move into a nursing home recently; it was a hard transition, but both he and I are grateful for so many little “assists” from the Universe along the way.

With a lot of time on his hands these days and a body that, in his words, doesn’t always do what he tells it to do, he’s found he spends much of that time on his inner world.

I believe great things can come from introspection; new ideas, answers to questions we’ve been pondering, sweet reflections on memories from the past.

But, as most of us well know, the thinking mind can also trip us up with its monkey chatter and focus on all of the things that aren’t working. For my dad, I can sense an old story drives his regrets, one that links his worth with what he’s seen as achieved in life.

Make no mistake, he has achieved a lot; his choices led him to create his own business with a heartfelt mission to teach english as a second language to people in developing countries so that they can empower themselves in the world market. But that business has since dissolved and circumstances have shifted so that the world around him can no longer see his “success.”

When I hear my dad lament about this, I hold space for the pain that feels real for him, but then lovingly reflect back to him what I believe to be true: that his life is worth so much more than any one thing that he has ever or ever will achieve.

We are more than our to do lists or anything outside who we are and the love we express.

This doesn’t discount any project or idea you are working hard to bring to life. On the contrary, I feel it honors it by recognizing it as a joyful expression of what’s inside of you.

So listen to that stirring in your heart to create, to show up, to do your soul’s work, whatever your work may be.

But (and this is a big but), if you find yourself sticking rigidly to your goals and find your worth has become completely entwined with your output, I invite you to step back to see the bigger picture.

We will never get there because we already are HERE…the now. This moment, the only real time there is.

I write these words not only as a love note to you, but also as a reminder to myself as well to keep my eye on the real prize: a life where I’ve followed my heart to create what’s within while embracing all the meaningful moments along the way.

With massive love,



If you’d like a little support for your unconscious mind to more deeply integrate this message, I invite you to listen to the short guided meditation below:

Sometimes life gets messy.

Sometimes life gets messy.

Baby M in the NICU

When asked how I’m doing by friends who haven’t heard from me in awhile, I often say that I’m finally emerging from my cave…because for me, that was what the first few years of motherhood felt like.

I had read all of the books; my ego told me “I should have been prepared.”

But that isn’t how life works sometimes. Sometimes, the best preparation is simply practicing presence and surrender so that when sh*t gets messy, there is something deep inside that keeps you going.

Although I’m not ready to share all of the details yet, I will share that the unimaginable happened after my son was born and he spent his first couple of months in the NICU instead of with us at home.

It taught me that I have a lioness inside willing to fight for my child when the need arose, and I shifted to a more primal existence, one where survival ranked high and being seen and heard didn’t even show up in my awareness (or if it did, it was small and subtle, in dreams and passing moments).

Being in a cave was also a beautiful thing in that living in the present moment was necessary for survival; I couldn’t fathom thinking of what the next 5 years would look like when I could only see what the day ahead would bring.

I’m so grateful to share that despite a rough start, our son is thriving, and I equally thank the angels, my ancestors, and every single doctor, nurse and therapist who was a part of his healing process along the way.

Over the past several months, I’ve been hearing those whispers from my intuition again, the ones that invite me back into the light to radiate not only the messages I felt called to share before, but also to share a new one:

the world needs more powerful compassion for ALL of it, both the beauty AND the mess

Because life IS messy sometimes, and sometimes that mess can overwhelm us. And then we beat ourselves up for not “taking care of our mess,” but the reality is that when we’re in that space is when we need love most of all.

And so, here I am, emerging from my cave after learning to dance more gracefully with my shadows and those messy parts of myself I refused to look at before.

I’ve recommitted to the practices that changed my relationship to my own energy in the past and followed my intuition as I felt called to create something new.

And, in a classic “the Universe has a sense of humor” moment, the entire process was rife with mess.

The evening was planned out, our child was in bed, my partner in the director’s seat, and I was in my flow…only to discover after over 2 hours of filming that the sound was unusable.

And so I recognized the mess, gave myself just a moment to sit in it, then cleaned back up and went at it again.

The next planned evening was brutally hot, but I was determined to get the right lighting, so I set up the tripod outside and bought one of those cheap remote controls for my iphone camera so that I could coordinate the takes by myself while my partner stayed inside to keep an eye on our son.

Again, I was in my flow…until back to back airplanes flew right over the house for several minutes in a row.

So I sat in the mess, blotted the sweat from my face, and kept going.

Again, and again, and again, until finally I had filmed enough takes to *hopefully* ensure there would be something usable in editing.

And then, it all just seemed to click together.

The lighting worked, the sound worked, but most importantly, my message was strong and clear.

I share this with you to remind you that there is often a mess behind every finished product that is presented to you…but the fact that it is in front of you now means that someone, somewhere, saw that mess and worked through it anyway.

Messy journey and all, I am excited to share my finished product with you because I truly believe in the power of these processes.

It’s a 3 day video mini course called Chaos to Calm, and in it I teach 3 insightful tools from the world of hypnosis that will shift your energy, no matter what’s going on in the world around you.

You can access the course here – my gift to you, absolutely free:

Click here for the Chaos to Calm Mini Course

Because no matter how messy it all seems, we are the ones who choose how long we want to sit in it and when we’re ready to clean it all up and create something beautiful.

With big, big love,


Skip the shortcuts and enjoy the journey

Skip the shortcuts and enjoy the journey

Skip the shortcuts and enjoy the journey

There’s no destination. The journey is all that there is, and it can be very, very joyful.
~Srikumar Rao

A girlfriend and I hadn’t seen each other in awhile, and she suggested we meet up at the Getty to take in a little culture and a bite to eat, teasing me that we were truly growing into little old ladies who lunch at museums :).

I arrived a little early and had a choice between taking the tram from the parking structure up the big hill to the museum or taking the walking path that ran alongside it.

It was a hot breezeless day, and part of me wanted to take the shortcut, to sit down and relax in an air-conditioned box as I was carried up the hill, saving my legs for the galleries ahead.

But the other part of me wanted to slow down…to skip the shortcut and enjoy the journey instead.

So I began trekking up the hill and to my delight I was guided through a sculpture garden and onto a beautiful tree-lined path that offered an expansive and surprisingly enjoyable view; I must admit, there’s something wonderful about being able to look over the 405 freeway and be grateful you’re on foot surrounded by happy trees instead of in the car surrounded by angry drivers.

Staying off the beaten path gave me an opportunity to meet a lovely woman who was also venturing along the sidelines; we took the time to get wrapped up in a conversation around what we love most about the city we live in and sharing about the work that lights us up (both of us helping the world in our own way – her life as a lawyer and mine as a healer and coach).

By the time I reached the top and said goodbye to my new friend to meet up with my old one, I realized that taking the “long way” gave me the unexpected gift of discovering more about myself and my connection to the people and place around me.

So often we rush through life, with a single-minded focus on our goals, forgetting that the goals are simply anchors to guide us toward our expansion, but that real life can ONLY be experienced right here, right now.

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> Slow down and enjoy both the destination as well as the journey along the way. <<Click to tweet

One way to intentionally slow down is through cultivating a practice of walking meditation, and I invite you to try it out through the 10 simple steps below:

  1. Find a private area where you can walk about 10 steps in one direction, indoors or outside (I always recommend getting out in nature if you can!).
  2. Begin standing in mountain pose, feet body-width apart and knees slightly bent and relaxed. Keep your eyes open, but soft, gazing easily in front of you (no need to watch your feet; trust that feeling them is enough).
  3. Focus awareness on the soles of your feet, feeling the weight of your body moving downward toward your feet and the physical connection with the ground beneath them.
  4. Allow the left heel to rise slowly and pay attention to all of the sensations moving up from the heel to ankle to calf. Notice the gentle shifting of the weight to the right foot. Notice if there is any wobbling as your left foot slowly moves toward the ground, bringing the attention first to the heel, then mid foot, then ball.
  5. Now bring the awareness to your right foot as you begin to slowly lift it off the ground, paying attention to those sensations you feel in the calf, ankle, and foot as you intentionally step forward.
  6. Repeat this process using the physical sensation of walking as your anchor, bringing your awareness back any time the mind wanders.
  7. When you reach the end, take a moment to simply stand and bring awareness back to the physical sensation of standing for a breath or two.
  8. Then repeat the process walking back the other direction, slowly, mindfully, and intentionally, taking small steps as you go.
  9. Continue walking for 10-15 minutes, varying the speed to slow down and speed up once you feel comfortable in your normal pace.
  10. Once the timer has gone off, stand once more in mountain pose, bringing awareness for a breath or two to the sensation of feeling present and grounded, enjoying what THIS moment has to offer.

I’d love to hear from you; what was your last experience of consciously slowing down to enjoy the journey in your life?

Listening for the whispers of truth inside

Listening for the whispers of truth inside

Listen for the whispers of truth inside of you

It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.

~K.T. Jong

One of our biggest challenges is forgetting not only our connection to the Divine, but that we ARE Divine, tapped into that infinite intelligence that truly does have all of the answers.

But even the forgetting is ok, as each time we remember again it sinks deeper and reveals a new layer we might not have discovered otherwise.

The discovery process can sometimes take us down winding roads of confusion, dredge us through the growing pains that we experience when in seemingly unchartered territory.

But other times, finding the answers can actually be ridiculously creative and dare I say, FUN.

Today’s Inspired Life Guided Meditation falls into the latter category.

The key for us as seekers is to step out of the constricted world that is black and white, all or nothing, and step more fully into the world of possibility, where there isn’t ONE right answer but many.

So get settled in and allow me to guide you to meet your Future Self, as you reconnect to the wisdom and visions that await:

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> I already have all of the answers inside, and I trust the whispers of my soul to guide me. <<Click to tweet

I’d love to hear from you:

Share what your future self communicated with you, trusting that your unconscious will continue to give you glimpses of the possible answer now that you’ve re-awakened that connection within.

How Intention Setting Can Help You Create What You Really Want

How Intention Setting Can Help You Create What You Really Want

How Intention Setting Can Change the Way You Approach Everything

Happy New Year – and new MOMENT – to you!

On New Year’s Eve this year, my dear friend and colleague Shari Alexander texted to ask what I would be doing for the holiday; first, I shared with her the image above, my DIY NYE Intention Setting Ceremony recipe that I had shared with my tribes on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, and then I took it a little deeper in my reply to her (the below copied and pasted directly from that text conversation):

I’ve spent many New Years alone and they were honestly some of my best memories…granted I’m an introvert, but still, I loved that I was able to choose exactly what energy I brought from this year into the next. Since you have such a productive day, it will be perfect for you to wind down with a little ceremony by yourself if you choose.

Here’s what I would do:

I would cozy up with a candle, tea, and journal or paper (and possibly calendar if I need to jog my memory). Start with a little meditation to be open and clear, letting go the busyness of the day.

Then I go through each month and tune into all I want to honor and celebrate and write it out, perhaps even writing out “I honor _______” FITB, focusing on the essence. For example, maybe I’m not excited about my ending “sales numbers” but I did impact several new people, so I focus on the impact.

Then I would go back through and honor those areas where I still yearn to grow – such as grounding myself, learning how to stay consistent with my business, seeing where I resisted the work, nurturing my sensuality and sexuality. Again honoring these areas with compassion (and with minimal “story” – keeping it as clean as possible).

Next I would just let my imagination run wild – what vision for 2015 really lights me up, going through every area of my life.

After I’ve written out the vision, I would go back through and distill it down to the essence – sure, a financially successful business would be great, but what’s that really about? Then I would see if there are recurring themes.

After all of this, I would end it with gratitude and surrender – if you have a safe way to burn things, you can even burn up each page of what you’ve written, trusting that it’s being integrated and will show up the way you need it.

Let me know how it goes for you!

First off, I know what you’re thinking…dear Lord, that woman writes long texts! 😉

Then perhaps you might be thinking about how you could apply this to your own life, even if the official “New Year” has already passed.

In fact, I speak a lot about how NOW is the only real time there is, so I truly believe that there is no “deadline” when it comes to listening to your soul’s desires and taking inspired action toward the life you really want to live.

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> We can only truly honor the past & connect with the future when rooted firmly in the now. <<Click to tweet

I would love to hear from you!

Have you created the space yet to honor your past and tune into your vision for the future? If so, what is the essence of your desire for the year that will guide you as you co-create that vision?


How would you like to immerse yourself in a powerful loving space created just for you, with a guide by your side to take you through these intention setting steps and help you interpret the wisdom of your soul?

For the month of January only, I’m offering 75-Minute Intention Setting Sessions at a special rate of $111 to do just that!

This includes intuitive coaching to help your conscious mind tune into the vision, hypnosis to affirm the wisdom from your unconscious, and reiki to seal it all in energetically.

Click the button below to secure your spot:

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I’m truly looking forward to creating this space for you :).

Dancing with your Shadow: How to Accept Yourself and Flow through Challenges in Life

Dancing with your Shadow: How to Accept Yourself and Flow through Challenges in Life

I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me, And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

I had the absolute pleasure of hosting a live Google Hangout with my dear friend Liz Dialto yesterday, as we dove into the topic of “How to Dance with your Shadow” – one of my favorite subjects as it’s one that I deal with on a daily basis whether in my own life or with my intuitive coaching and hypnotherapy clients.

As always, I walked away learning a lot – about myself, my work, and how I can share these tools in an even deeper way with my tribe – so I invite you to join our conversation by watching the video above, as we share stories and principles that can support you as you learn to dance with your shadow.

Here are just a few of those insights from our conversation in the meantime:

No matter how far along on our journey we are…our shadow is always there. But it doesn’t have to be something that we judge or avoid…in fact, when we start to see its appearances as something to look forward to, as a sign that we’ve expanded into something big, then everything begins to fall into perspective.

Our shadow is our own unique “dark side” – that part of us that points us exactly to where we can learn and grow and expand more fully in our lives, and mine will look different from yours (though often there are quite a few overlaps – fear has many faces but they often look alike).

For me, my shadow often shows up as a “who are you to guide others in their life” – questioning my place in the world to shine brightly and stand tall for what I feel is truth. I work through this in many ways – several of which you’ll find sprinkled throughout my blog – but what always works best for me is a consistent return to the now, with compassion and with trust, and giving myself a “fresh start” in each new moment as I allow what needs to unfold to unfold.

For Liz, her shadow shows up when she finds that speaking her truth triggers someone’s insecurity – prompting them to lash out towards her, the source of that trigger. She shares a beautifully organic process that has allowed her to dance with her shadows – a cycle that allows her to flow through each of those challenges in a deeper way each time. She calls this having a “super deep self-love, self-trust, acceptance of herself, and deep faith.”

Here’s what it looks like to stop and hold the space for the energy to move through you so you can truly Dance with YOUR Shadow:

1. Honor the shadow! Whatever crappy emotions come up, let them move THROUGH you – you are a Spiritual being having a human experience, so release that energy so it gets out of you. Express it – write it, share it with trusted friends – whatever it takes to get it out in a healthy way.

2. Put on mega-watt goggles of compassion and recognize that those negative emotions are NOT your Truth.

3. Forgive and send love. This does NOT mean that the behavior is “ok” – this simply releases the hold it has over you so you can release it. It’s not our job to know the full story of someone else’s journey, so forgive even if you don’t understand the “why” of their actions.

4. Move your body! Listen to music, get out of your head…and if necessary, repeat the above until you feel it’s moved through you.

5. Once the charge has been removed enough, create space to allow the lessons to come. Why did this happen? How can this pattern be avoided in the future? Then come back to that trust of yourself and the Universe, and that your Shadow came here to teach you the lessons you were meant to learn.


Click to tweet!Click to tweet >> Learn to dance with your shadow in these 5 easy steps w/ @LizDialto & @SabrinaBolin << Click to tweet



Liz and I recognize that there is not ONE way – the above is simply a set of tools for you to try on and see what resonates.

We both encourage you to stay open to ways the Universe is supporting you – through people, through books, through processes that speak to your soul. The shadow dances around in our blind spots, so it’s important for us to seek with intuitive discernment those ways that we can allow our shadow to be reflected back so that we can dance with it, heal it, grow through it.

One way to really take this work deeper is through Wild Soul Movement.

Wild Soul Movement is a 12 week video-based practice that combines movement, mantra and meditation.




I’m a proud partner of this program, as its intentions are so aligned with and supportive of the work I do with my clients, guiding you to move the energy through you as you surrender and release, trust and receive, dream and desire, and create from a space more connected to your inner wisdom.

Enrollment for the Fall Session closes this Friday, so if you’re ready to say yes to that intuitive nudge, join Liz here:

Wild Soul Movement – Fall Enrollment


No matter how you choose to dance with your shadow, recognize how important this work truly is…and that you’re NEVER alone on this journey, with Universe and guides to support you along the way.

I’d love to hear from you! How do you dance with YOUR shadows in life and more fully accept yourself both light and dark?