The Power of Appreciation

The Power of Appreciation

Join The 21-Day #dailypda Challenge

Appreciation is the highest form of prayer, for it acknowledges the presence of good wherever you shine the light of your thankful thoughts.
~Alan Cohen

We are inundated this time of year with the word gratitude…and that’s a good thing because gratitude is a transformative practice.

But today I want to talk about the power of appreciation…gratitude’s less hyped kissing cousin.

ap·pre·ci·a·tion
əˌprēSHēˈāSH(ə)n/
noun
1.
the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.

Appreciation allows us to both recognize and ENJOY the good qualities of life and the world around us…and when we do so, our energy shifts…and when our energy shifts we can live our joy more fully every day, no matter what other circumstances surround us.

So to activate the power of appreciation in your life, I am inviting you to join me in the #dailypda 21 day challenge!

Here’s a short one-minute video of me sharing what it’s all about – and why it’s so important:

What does #dailypda stand for?

Well, daily public display of APPRECIATION of course!

Here’s how it works:

Kicking off on December 1st, I’m going to lead by example by sharing at least one “moment of appreciation” with the hashtag #dailypda each day on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, and I invite you to do the same!

It’s a little different than just sharing things you’re grateful for, as I invite you to open your awareness to not only what’s floating around in your head but for the actual physical evidence showing up in the world around you.

And rather than just sharing the broad areas of appreciation, I want you to focus on those single moments…so for example, you might share a pic of your backyard with the hashtag #dailypda and the caption would be “I appreciate that moment standing in the sunshine in my backyard when I watched 2 squirrels jump wildly from the telephone wire to the sycamore tree #dailypda”

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> Life is made up of little moments; focus on ones that light you up to attract more of the same. ~@SabrinaBolin bit.ly/dailypda <<Click to tweet

We wrap it up on December 21st, which is the New Moon and a potent time to focus your energy on what you want to create in your life…and it will be so much easier to do so from a space of being open and appreciative now that you’ve built in this new way of seeing the world around you.

So join me by entering your info below:

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But “why, Sabrina…why?” Here are a few answers to your potential “why’s” :).

Why moments of appreciation – why not just a gratitude list?

Our brains tend to generalize out…when asked how we’re doing, we often reply with “it’s a good day, or it’s been a rough day,” our mind summarizing the overall shade of that day’s experience.

However, when we hone in on those magical moments – those little mini-movies that we call memories, we can often shift a rough day to good and even a good day to great.

And from that singular point of focus, the brain will generalize out again and our memories become reconsolidated so that we begin to see our lives and the Universe working FOR us rather than against us.

Why public displays of appreciation – why not just journal around this?

When you share your moments with those around you it does several things:

*it lifts them up and encourages them to seek out moments of their own!
*it gives you a public record of what lights you up in your life; naysayers might say that this is just one side of the story, that it’s a polyanna approach to the challenges we face on a day to day basis. But it’s time for a little loving truth bomb: you are not your story. You are the creator of your story, so why not choose a better version and know that no matter where you are now, EVERYTHING is changing.
*it keeps you accountable to consistency; transformation can happen in a moment, but lasting change is the result of consistent habits.

Why now – it’s already so cray cray with the holidays upon us!

Well, I believe now is the only real time there is (no really, THIS moment right now exists in reality – everything else is in our big, beautiful minds!).

But if we’re going to play with the linear concept of time for a moment, where days on the calendar do exist, then the other reason I chose now is because it’s so easy to forget about “being thankful” after the Thanksgiving buzz wears off.

And my work is all about helping you to create consistent thought habits – no matter what’s going on in the outside world.

So I invite you to join me on this FUN challenge by entering your name and email below, so I can send you loving check-ins a couple of times a week along with other insightful and inspiring reminders to reconnect you to the big WHY.

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As a BONUS, I’m giving away a copy of Russ Harris’ book “The Happiness Trap,” one of my fave resources with actionable exercises to teach you how to defuse the energy from unhelpful thoughts so that you can infuse them into what you appreciate and what you want to create more of in your life.

To enter the giveaway, all you have to do is enter your info and then you’ll gain an entry into the drawing with each tweet, instagram post, or facebook post that you share with the hashtag #dailypda (tag @sabrinabolin on Twitter, @thesabrinabolin on Instagram, and www.facebook.com/sabrinabolin/ on Facebook so I don’t miss your shares!).

We officially kick-off on December 1st, so sign up today, and I look forward to supporting and celebrating your #dailypda with you on this journey!

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The Upside of Worry

The Upside of Worry

The Upside of Worry

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.
~Corrie Ten Boom

We are all familiar with the many downsides of worry; it is defined as “praying for what you don’t want” for good reason.

And for the most part, I would agree; when the emotion of worry becomes excessive, we focus all of our awareness on the worst possible outcome, leaving us stuck in a fog and unable to take those steps forward to heal and grow through the lessons our souls are presenting to us (albeit sometimes in messy packages).

But through my journey, I have come to understand that worry is of the little mind, aka our ego, and like all things that stem from little mind, it is here to give us an opportunity to grow and expand.

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> The less we vilify our own experience, the more we can accept ourselves and return to wholeness. <<Click to tweet

 

The tricky thing with emotions and even our thoughts is that they are a part of us – but they are not who we are at our core.

So the upside of worry and all of those emotions we deem “bad” or undesirable is that they are guideposts – signs to those parts of our lives that crave healing and compassionate awareness.

It then becomes a delicate dance as we learn how to honor our emotions and thoughts – including the worrisome kind – without attachment and with a sense of curiosity instead.

Taken a step further, when we worry about something in life, we are reminded that it is important to us, even if the future is tangled up in a web of uncertainty.

In that sense, worry is a gift – we can essentially “thank our worry” for reminding us what we find most valuable in any given moment (whether that’s the health of loved ones, living up to our highest potential in our careers, or connecting more deeply in intimate relationships).

Recognizing this upside to worry – indeed, to everything in your experience – I invite you to shift the energy behind it so that it can become more useful in your life by asking yourself these questions:

Where is the love?

Under every fear there is love or a call for love so allow yourself to refocus on that aspect first. This can be as simple as remembering that the worry crept up in the first place because there is an element of something you love being threatened. So how can you simply embrace that which you love in THIS moment – rather than worrying about it being taken away in the next?

Where is my power?

We live in a co-creative Universe, so your power is best accessed when you focus on the essence of what you desire, rather than getting wrapped up in external circumstances or other people’s actions. Connect to the energy of what you want, while releasing the “form” that it has to take – because the Universe often has even bigger and better plans that you might imagine.

What will I choose?

With awareness comes choice, and you have the power to choose possibility over worry when you’ve recognized the current of love underneath of it all. And what is possible might surprise you when you begin to shift your thoughts from the worst possible scenario back toward a trust of an ever-expanding, all- abundant Universe that always has your back.

I’ve been given many opportunities to practice this in my own life, especially recently as one of my little dogs has been diagnosed with lymphoma.

Like any mama who feels the safety of her “baby” being threatened, I immediately experienced a flood of worry, grasping for answers to soothe my confusion.

Once I was able to recognize that my deep level of worry simply correlated to my deep level of love for her, I focused as much as possible on that love to shift my energy around it.

My power then freed up when I recognized that the essence of my desire was to live in the present moment and enjoy a deep quality of life, regardless of what’s going on around me. So I keep coming back to the now again and again appreciating more deeply the time that we do have together rather than the time that we don’t.

By shifting back to my place of power, I can see more clearly what my choices really are. I can choose to support my little dog with whatever feels right in the moment, releasing the attachment to the outcome.

Ultimately, I can choose once again to trust…in my Higher self, in her soul’s journey, and in an infinite Universe.

This experience has taught me that worry is a part of life, and not altogether a bad thing; every emotion has its place as we grow stronger each time we learn how to process that which is out of our control while accepting and changing that which is.

I’d love to hear from you: Where is the love, your power, and a different choice around something that is worrying you today?

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

How to make a choice when you feel stuck in indecision

 

In life, we are often faced with complex decisions, and for many of us, it’s paralyzing when we can’t seem to just make a choice.

And let’s face it…making choices is the very nature of our day-to-day life.

Some choices come easier than others, but some of those choices are wrapped up in so many layers that we believe the direction we choose could forever alter the course of our lives, creating irreparable havoc on our path.

And I believe that there is only partial truth in this…every choice we make does alter the course, but often in ways that take us exactly where we need to be to learn and grow through life’s lessons.

The biggest fear that usually pops into mind when faced with one of these big decisions is:

What if I make the wrong choice?

To that question, I invite you to try on this instead:

What if there was no such thing as the wrong choice?

For it’s only when we shift perspective that we begin to see all sides of the challenges – AND opportunities – before us.

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet >> Life is making new choices in each moment; trust your intuition to make the right one for you.<< Click to tweet

 

It’s ALL energy, so your first priority is to shift your energy so that you can make the choice that feels most aligned for you in that moment.

This is why it is always my goal in my own life and when working with my coaching clients to guide them to release the heaviness around making that choice, because when you do, you feel lighter, more open, and ultimately less attached to the outcome.

One way to shift this energy is to work with the images in your mind to “defuse” the charge you feel around the possible outcomes from making the choice.

Our ego minds often take us to the extremes of the “worst possible scenario” when stuck in indecision, so rather than deny the images that pop up in our mind, it better serves us to actually work with them.

So read the below exercise (one of the many I guide my coaching and hypnotherapy clients through), then try it on for yourself:

Step 1: Close your eyes and allow yourself to think about that “worst possible scenario” and notice what image pops into mind (as our brain is always sending us little images and mini-movie clips connected to our thoughts and feelings)

Step 2: Begin to play with the image you see. Imagine it is on one of those old tube TVs. Change the image to black and white. See it as dark and fuzzy. And then finally send it all the way to the corner of the room where you need to squint to still see it.

Step 3: Now imagine that “best possible scenario” from making this choice and notice what image pops into mind.

Step 4: Charge that image up by making it panoramic, wrapped all around, Imax size so it fills an entire stadium. Turn up the brightness so it’s HD quality…then 3D quality so the image floats out of the screen so you could touch it.

Step 5: Float into that image, seeing what you see and hearing what you hear, and noticing how good it feels to embody that best case scenario.

Step 6: Then imagine floating back out, take a nice easy breath, and open your eyes.

Interesting how the mind and energy works, isn’t it?

From this new space, you will feel less charge around that fear and more empowered by the possibility – so the choice itself will often become clearer and much easier to make.

So TRUST yourself – and the Universe to support you.

Release illusion of control around the outcome.

And sink deeply into the now where everything is happening exactly as it’s meant to.

I’d love to hear from you: What did you notice when trying the exercise above? And what other tools or perspectives help you make a choice when stuck in indecision?

P.S.

I believe so fully in the power of choice that the heart of my coaching practice focuses on guiding you to strengthen the ultimate “choice-maker” – your intuitive voice that can guide you through it all. If you need support strengthening yours, I invite you to learn more below about how I can help below:

http://www.sabrinabolin.com/work-with-me/

Melissa Tiers on the Incredible Power of the Mind

Melissa Tiers on the Incredible Power of the Mind

Melissa Tiers on The Incredible Power of the Mind

“We’re living in an amazing time where we’re finding out just how malleable and changeable we really are.”

~Melissa Tiers

The first book I ever purchased on the topic of hypnosis was recommended to me by dear friend and fellow hypnotherapist, Melany Cohen, who rang me up and said:

“Sabrina, you have to read this book by Melissa Tiers – it’s called Integrative Hypnosis, and it covers just about everything you need to know to understand how all this stuff works.”

I took her advice to heart and ordered a copy on Amazon…and was blown away.

Since then I’ve become an über fan of Melissa’s work, investing in her next 2 books, The Anti-Anxiety Toolkit and Keeping the Brain in Mind, as well as enrolling and graduating from her virtual e-course on Coaching the Unconscious Mind and her live intensive in New York City Integrative Hypnosis.

So when Melissa agreed to let me interview her on the power of the mind and where the neuroscience supports the work I do as an intuitive coach and hypnotherapist, I was giddy to say the least!

We’re truly lucky in this day and age, as we haven’t always lived in a time where the mind-body (and mind-body-soul!) connection was so readily accepted and studied under a microscope.

In fact, at the very top of our interview, Melissa shares a great story about an experience she had 12 years ago when she was training a group of doctors in subconscious mind techniques. One in particular kept questioning the whole idea of Mind-Body medicine, and Melissa’s response to him is priceless as she provides indisputable evidence of one way most adults experience the mind-body connection every day (you have to watch the video for her explanation!).

Her wit, intelligence, and passion for the subject shines through as we sat down over Skype to talk about the past, present, and future of how we work with the mind to change our lives – here are a just few of the highlights:

  • Down to the cellular level, mind is there.
  • We can rewire our brains faster than we ever thought possible.
  • Our brains do NOT stop changing at a certain age.
  • Unconscious implicit memories that went in at a young age are now changeable.
  • It’s as easy as creating alternative connections and pathways to old behaviors.
  • Neuroplasticity is showing how we can literally change our past by changing our memories.
  • Science is catching up to energy psychology and recognizing just how energetic we are.

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> Don’t underestimate the power of your mind; perception affects everything. ~Melissa Tiers <<Click to tweet

 

Without further ado, meet Melissa Tiers:

 

 

The conversation gets a bit technical at times (I’m a geek for science but recognize not everyone shares this with me!), so I wanted to further explain the two areas that are exciting her most:

Melissa talks about memory reconsolidation as the explanation behind why certain techniques in NLP and Integrative Hypnosis (two of the processes I’m trained in through her) actually change the synapses in your brain. From her book, Keeping the Brain in Mind, she explains it further:

“Memory reconsolidation refers to the idea that each time a past event (an “episodic memory”) is remembered, it is stored in a slightly different way depending on what else was in the mind at the time the memory was recalled. The thoughts being thought and the experiences behind had when that memory is recalled become linked to it so that the next time the memory is recalled, those thoughts and experiences may also appear.”

So what does this mean in a practical sense? It means that your memories are always changing depending on how you recall them, so you have a choice and the power to turn “bad” memories into more helpful – and sometimes, even GOOD – ones!

Melissa also mentions epigenetics, which is the science studying our ability to turn on and off gene expression…that’s right, the age-old nature versus nurture conversation is leaning even more in favor of nurture these days, as we have more power than we realized to reduce the potential for certain traits and diseases!

Can you imagine a world where we truly begin tapping into our fullest potential? Where disease is a thing of the past, and we’ve learned to look past the limitations we experience in our lives?

It’s pretty exciting to see the ways that the future is already happening NOW, as we step more fully into this possibility every day.

I hope Melissa’s work has inspired you the way she has inspired me; to learn more from her, visit her website at The Center for Integrative Hypnosis by clicking here.

We would love to hear from you: How have you directly experienced the power of the mind in your life?

Join the conversation in the comments below!

P.S. If you’d like support in experiencing these processes firsthand, click the below for details on my 35% off birthday special in July on Intuitive Coaching + Hypnotherapy packages – I’d love to help you tap into the power of YOUR mind!

 

 

Change your Mind, Change your Life

Change your Mind, Change your Life

Change your Mind Change your Life

The mind is everything. What you think you become.
~Buddha

We know that the mind not only affects our thoughts and our feelings but also our physical body. The yogis and mystics have shown us this for ages, and science is just now catching up to “explain” what they think is going on.

But the more we think we know about the mind, the more we realize that we’ve barely even scratched the surface. Indeed, the one thing we all agree on is that there is sheer untapped potential in each and every one of us.

So with this knowing inside that there is so much more to life than we may be experiencing, how can you change your mind to change your life and release it from its limitations when it seems so stuck in its ways?

Most of us try to change our mind through force or willpower and have the inconsistent results to show for it. Our conscious mind is after all only about 5-10% of our total brainpower…pretty measly when you consider our full potential.

The rest of our mind lies in the unconscious – that part of us that speaks in metaphors, imagery, and symbols. It’s our dreams, whether sleeping or awake, that point us toward our full potential, our truest wisdom.

This realization sparked a fire within me to seek out ways to communicate more directly with the unconscious mind, and when I stumbled into hypnosis many years ago, I could sense I was opening the door to a whole new world of possibility.

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> You can change your mind to change your life…and it can be easier than you think. <<Click to tweet

 

But what is hypnosis anyway?

Experts disagree on many things hypnosis-related, including the definition, but one explanation I feel paints the clearest picture is a focused state of awareness where you have the ability to tap into the power of your unconscious mind…consciously.

It’s, as my teacher Melissa Tiers would say, meditation with an agenda.

Hypnosis gives us the ability to rewire the brain, literally, so that old neural pathways disconnect as new ones are connected – the fears and anxieties that we believed to be so powerful lose their charge.

Hypnosis allows us to connect deeply with the genius within – and even with the wisdom of the Universe. It awakens the intuition and trains our mind to pay attention to the signs that are being sent to us every day.

Hypnosis also gives us the ability to change our motivation because in truth we are all motivated to do something – perhaps just not something we want to be doing. By shifting the energy from one thing to another – in amazingly simple ways – we can begin taking inspired action toward the change we want to create in life.

Basically, hypnosis allows you to release overwhelm, awaken your intuition, and take inspired action in life – the ultimate goal of the work I do with my Intuitive Coaching and Hypnotherapy clients.

Of course, you can do all of these things without hypnosis; access to the subconscious mind is not relegated to an elite few who have learned these techniques. But I fell in love with this process because it allows us to do so with more ease and fun than I ever thought possible.

And at the end of the day, what’s life if we can’t bring more ease, fun, and a little bit of transformation to it? 🙂

Because I want to show you just how easy hypnosis can be, I’ve created a short Easy Self-Hypnosis MP3 that you can listen to for FREE by pressing play below:

 

If you’d like to take it deeper, I’d love to explore this exciting territory with you and am making it even easier to do so with a 35% off special on all of my packages in the month of July to celebrate my 35th birthday this month!

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Question for you:

Have you used hypnosis (yes, the MP3 above counts!), visualization, or another process to more directly access your subconscious mind? If so, I’d love to hear how it helped shift your awareness and behaviors!

Secret Desires

Secret Desires

Secret Desires

I would not be where I am without my amazing support system – the teachers, coaches, mentors, and friends who keep me on track in both my spiritual and entrepreneurial work. In fact, I truly trust these women (and men) with my heart’s desires, digging deep together to explore, to be held accountable, to be kept on track.

But as much as I love transparency, I don’t share everything…I have my secrets.

And I believe it’s not only ok but actually sacred to have secret desires that are for you and you alone.

This might sound completely contradictory to the message I usually share – to claim your dreams, loud and proud, for the Universe and anyone else listening to hear.

So let me paint a picture to explain:

Any given moment contains unlimited possible future moments; the one that you experience is the one you pay attention to.

And sometimes sharing our secret wishes before they’re fully formed gives others unspoken permission to give you their “advice.”

And sometimes their good intentions go awry when they try to “protect” you from the failure of that dream not coming to fruition – talking “sense” into you so that you can focus on something that doesn’t threaten their sense of self and what’s possible.

And sometimes you aren’t fully tapped into the strength to protect that secret wish…so you simply let it go away.

 

So how do you know when to share your desires and when to hold them as secrets?

As always, tune in and ask your intuition.

You will get a sense of a need to nurture and protect if that secret desire is still in its infancy.

You might even feel a little unclear on the details but have a strong knowing that it must happen – even though you don’t understand “how” it will work out quite yet.

You’ll feel more feminine than masculine, receptive to those signs from the Universe to point you rather than driven to focus all of your energy and get it out there.

But whether your intuition says “be still and nurture this” or “let the energy flow and manifest this now,” it is paramount to HONOR that desire either way.

Sometimes we refuse to even acknowledge our desires, thinking them too “big” or “unrealistic” but that couldn’t be further from the truth. The fact is that thought or idea lights you up for a reason: you are the one who is meant to bring it forth into the world.

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> Stop judging your desires; they are an expression of your soul and the gateway to creation. <<Click to tweet

 

Even if we aren’t meant to share them with everyone, our secret desires deserve a home.

Because there is one person you should never keep secrets from…yourself.

So get out a piece of paper or your journal today – better yet, right now – and write down that secret desire that has been floating around inside your head.

If your intuition leads you to keep it secret – for now – I invite you to ask the Universe to send you the people, circumstances, and insights you need for that secret desire to grow and become more formed.

And most importantly, stay present because as much as I honor secret desires, I don’t believe they are meant to be held in secret forever.

There will a come a time when the energy shifts and you will have the clarity, confidence, and strength to take the inspired action you need to make that secret desire a reality.

I’d love to hear from you:

Do you have a secret desire right now that you’ve yet to even fully share with yourself? Or has your intuition ever led you to take that secret desire into the world – and how did you know it was time?