how to protect your energy for healthier relationships

how to protect your energy for healthier relationships

As I work with my clients to nurture their relationships with themselves (especially that wise inner voice that is yearning to be heard!), I believe it’s essential that I’m nurturing this relationship myself in order to be in integrity with this work.

The true aim of inner work of course is putting it into practice in our outer world, and what better way to do so than by extending the same curiosity, understanding, and loving boundaries to the other relationships in our lives.

Perhaps the intense challenges of this past year have helped you strengthen those relationships in your life, or perhaps they’ve been put to the test more than ever before.

Whatever has been true for you, I want to share a process with you today that will help you navigate the energy of your relationships by tapping into the power of your unconscious through visualization and symbolic imagery.

Here’s how it works (read on or watch the video below to learn this super simple technique):

Before you engage in any kind of connection that you know can be potentially triggering, take a quick moment to close your eyes and visualize that there is a zipper right there between your feet.

Imagine zipping up your energy, all the way up in front of you to the crown of your head, creating a boundary between your energy and the outer world.

If anything starts to come toward this boundary that isn’t helpful, picture it lovingly bouncing away…this is a very gentle and compassionate way of being with not only your own energy but other people’s stuff too (and on this journey, we’ve ALL got our “stuff”).

I would love to hear from you (no really, email me!):

As you practice this process, tell me what you notice shifting with your energy as you interact with the people around you.

The more you practice this, the more easily you will access the energy that is yours and begin releasing all that energy that isn’t…and with all of that energy freed up, just imagine what’s possible :).

what I believe is more important than having a clear vision for the future ?

what I believe is more important than having a clear vision for the future ?

If you are anything like me, I imagine you were dreaming big when the beginning of 2020 rolled around, setting bold intentions to expand and grow and create the life that you most deeply desire (or at least take a few steps closer to it).

Perhaps some of those dreams did come to fruition, or perhaps things didn’t unfold exactly as planned and you’re still reconciling how to navigate what has shown up for you instead.

I know this was the case for me…with our son starting school in the fall, I was excited for the hours that would open up every morning so that I could devote my time and energy to bringing my message of self-trust and emotional resiliency to those who needed it.

Despite the pandemic and wearing the hats of “teaching assistant” alongside “coach” and “caretaker” and “mother,” to name a few, I was able to take steps toward my vision…smaller than expected, but steps all the same.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned along my meandering journey in this life, it’s that staying present often invites us to allow the vision we had to change into the one that we need.

This is why “clarity” in its traditional understanding isn’t always so helpful and that having a “clear vision” for the future can be overrated.

So what is the point of all of the intention-setting, goal-getting, and vision-creation?

I believe the value of clarity is the ENERGY that it creates within us…it is the fuel that lights us up to take action toward those dreams, even if we’re not certain that we’re ever going to “arrive.”

When I was working toward completing my bachelor’s degree at Pepperdine oh-so-many years ago, I can honestly say that I didn’t know exactly what my future held.

But I did have ideas and a vision based on what felt like important goals at the time…and this vision pulled me through, day in and day out, until graduation day when I took a moment to celebrate before tuning back in to recognize what had changed so that I could create a NEW vision based on who I had become.

I asked myself:

What is going to light me up? 

What energy do I feel called to create and put forth into the world?

And then I simply took one step at a time, moving toward that new vision until it was time to shift once again.

What energy do you want to embody this coming year and what aspects of your vision activate that energy?

Focus on that energy and those parts of your vision, and you’ll be pulled to what’s next, again and again and again.

Sending love and a whole lot of hope for the year to come,

Sabrina

we are all in this together ❤

we are all in this together ❤

If you prefer watching/listening to this love note, scroll down to the video below…otherwise, read on!

I just wanted to come in with a quick love note, and share a perspective around why it is so important to stay connected, especially during times like this.

We are meant to be on this journey together, and the reason I believe that is because there is something that PULLS us to the human beings that we connect with in this lifetime.

Yet what will often happen when times start to feel a little frenetic, a little too challenging, or when we start to feel too vulnerable in our own pain and our own struggling, is that we pull our energy inward and away from those who we care about (and who, more importantly, care about us).

On the flip side, we also take for granted that even though we are in this together, there is an assumption that we’re having the same experience, and that’s not always the case. Each of us is processing in our own way, we’re carrying the weight of different things, and, perhaps, we’re experiencing joys that the people in our lives might not know about and have a little extra we can give.

If you are in a place where your cup is full and you have more to give, then it is a perfect opportunity for you to reach out and connect and give from that overflowing of energy, of capacity, and of love.

So, my invitation to you today is to reach out to someone in your life, and depending on what you need and what you have to offer, I want you to ask them one of two things:

1. If you need help, and you need some support, let them know what’s going on in your heart and ask “can you help?”

2. If you are in a place where life is actually going all right for you, then I invite you to reach out to someone and ask “how can I help?”

We came here to experience life TOGETHER…but we have to open ourselves to it. 

I look forward to hearing how this action of connection lights something up within you today; email me today to let me know:

Are you in a place to ask for or offer help today? In other words, is your work to give or receive more freely?

Then pay attention to what shifts within your life simply because you chose to stay connected, giving and receiving with the human beings who are most important to you.

Speaking of staying connected, I would love to invite you to a FREE workshop in the coming weeks on the topic of “Cultivating more Clarity in Uncertain Times;” if this is something that might interest you, let me know by clicking here or filling out the form below.



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what to do when you feel like you’re not doing enough

what to do when you feel like you’re not doing enough

little girl and little boy running barefoot in grass

As I’m writing this, it’s the day before our son Miles’ 5th birthday, which is a day I remember not only as his entry into the world but also as my initiation into motherhood.

I don’t often share this, but I wasn’t one of those little girls who played with baby dolls as I dreamt of becoming a mother.

I was more prone to playing entrepreneur (charging my cousin to eat at our house at my “Pig Out” Cafe), trying my hand at activism (starting my own chapter of Kids for Saving Earth when I was still in elementary school), and making plans to own my own home with a lush backyard full of trees (growing up surrounded by nature in Oklahoma set the stage for this one).

So when I met the man who would later become my husband, a family man through and through, I thought that I had to choose between continuing down the path I had envisioned when I was little OR choose this new path, with diapers and parenting classes and room parent responsibilities as my sole focus.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that there was another path; one that allowed for the diapers AND my clients, the parenting classes AND speaking out for the causes that are important to me, the responsibilities to schools AND taking care of our home.

Full transparency: making this choice to create space for the both/and in my life isn’t always an easy one, and I have had more moments than I care to admit when I feel like I’m not doing any of it well, for my family OR for my career.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from juggling these responsibilities in my life (and from guiding many of my clients to do the same), it’s that beating myself up has never helped things; it only serves to keep us stuck and frankly, pretty miserable.

When our minds get fixated on all that we haven’t accomplished, how we’re handling things wrong, or what isn’t working in our lives, we quite literally don’t have the headspace for the magic that is always there.

On the other hand, when we stop to slow down and become a little more gentle with ourselves, we bring in an expansiveness to our energy that creates space to not only soothe our weary souls, but that also invites in creative solutions we might not have seen before.

Have you paid attention to the energy that was under the choices and actions you’ve taken in your life lately?

If not, I invite you to take a little time to do that today; soften your mind and bring a little more gentleness to your experience and notice how it shifts the choices you make for yourself and toward creating change in this world.

You are not alone…there is always love waiting for you in the stillness.

Believing in the power of you,

Sabrina

P.S.

In case you missed it, or if you’ve made the conscious choice to step back from social media (a choice I support 100%, by the way!), I led a quick 4 minute guided HypnoReiki meditation in this week’s IGTV; you can watch it here, no Instagram account needed:

Click here for a 4 minute shot of HypnoReiki to soothe your mind and body

P.P.S.

This inspiring talk by Elizabeth Gilbert on Facing Fear with Compassion couldn’t be more timely and was a salve for my soul; listen to it by clicking here.

do your habits support the vision of who you want to be in life?

do your habits support the vision of who you want to be in life?

sabrina running down hill in white sands new mexico

“Your identity emerges out of your habits…more precisely, your habits are how you embody your identity.”
-James Clear, Atomic Habits

When I first discovered James Clear’s book Atomic Habits last year, my brain was buzzing; this idea that we behave in ways that are aligned with who we believe ourselves to be wasn’t exactly new information, but the book presented this concept along with others in a way that clicked both intuitively and intellectually.

Beyond the book, however, what became clear to me was how important it was to take it back one step; to actually examine who we really believed ourselves to be before trying to change our behaviors.

Of course, it turns out many of those beliefs are found swimming under the surface of the unconscious.

Hypnosis and the other processes that I use in my own life and in my client work can certainly help you dive into this exploration more quickly, but you can begin uncovering these insights on your own.

Here are 6 steps to determine the habits you need to align your identity with who you want to be:

1. Anxiety is an intuition killer, so it helps to start by bringing yourself to a more relaxed state (yoga, meditation, breathwork, time in nature – there are so many ways to shift down, so I invite you to explore and find what works for YOU!)

2. Your brain is geared to answer questions, so lean into that natural ability and ask yourself “who do I believe myself to be?” so that your unconscious begins picking up on cues

3. Recognize that the language that your unconscious speaks is images, metaphors, and archetypes and then pay attention to where you notice these within yourself and the world around you

4. Write down what you notice and begin to formulate a clearer picture of who you believe yourself to be

5. Invite in your intuition and discern if who you believe yourself to be is who you DESIRE to be

6. If who you desire to be isn’t in alignment with who you believe yourself to be now, ask yourself how would you show up differently to affirm the identity of who you intend to become in this life?

The answer to THIS question will reveal the habits you want to change to begin showing up more consistently as the person you intend to be.

The unconscious isn’t always as mysterious as we believe it to be; sometimes just a bit of conscious attention can help us see what we need to see so that we can ultimately change what we’re ready to change.

And when you believe in your capacity to become the person you desire to be and start taking action toward that identity, you’ll find yourself proving it to be true in no time :).

the 3 words that changed my life

the 3 words that changed my life

3 powerful words

 

Words are powerful.

They are bridges that connect us to one another, but they also carry weight in the conversations we hold with ourselves.

Most of our self-talk is unconscious, based on the questions we have asked and stories we have told ourselves that have woven into patterns over time (some, empowering; some, not so much).

I was reminded of this just recently as I was graciously introduced by Nicole Lee in her Inclusive Life Accelerator to LaTosha Brown, an amazing speaker, activist, and truthteller.

In Ms. Brown’s powerful presentation, she led with a question that spoke so clearly to my soul:

“Who are you BEING in the world?”

YESSSSSSSSS.

All of our DOING is irrelevent if we aren’t first aligned with our BEING.

So how do we stay consistently aligned with “who we be?”

I don’t have all of the answers, but there has been one phrase that has come together for me again and again over the years to guide me back home to my deepest knowing (click the button below to learn what those 3 words are):

I would love to hear from you:

What words will you choose to shift the way that you are showing up for yourself and more fully align with who you are being in life?

Choosing love, always,

Sabrina

P.S.

I am a big believer in small actions making a big impact; here is a list compiled by Alexandra Franzen of 30 ways you can educate yourself, stand in solidarity with your BIPOC friends, fight racism, and build a better world.

P.P.S.

I was also introduced to this beautiful song through the Accelerator; close your eyes, listen, and heal.