What to do when life lessons aren’t clear

What to do when life lessons aren’t clear

what to do when life lessons aren't clear

Have you ever experienced a challenge in your life and then found yourself fixated on the question “what was the lesson here?” after it was all said and done?

Story. Of. My. Life.

As a self-proclaimed “seeker,” I have found myself asking WHY on many an occasion…but it wasn’t until I recognized the limitations of this simple question that I was able to uncover a new level of personal growth.

In fact, asking “why” can often contribute to our own suffering because it leaves no room for surrender…and in my experience, that’s when the real wisdom comes through.

Even though I “know better,” I still forget what I know – to forget is human, but to remember again is divine, after all  – and this happened to me last month when I had a series of misunderstandings between someone I thought had shown up in my life to be my next teacher as I grow my skills working with energy.

At the end of the day, I have to be honest:

I wasn’t happy with the outcome and started asking WHY – what was the lesson here?

I found myself chewing on this question, coming up with possible “answers,” then returning back to a state of confusion.

And then I remembered:

Sometimes the answer isn’t going to be clear in my mind…but my body always knows what I need.

So I stopped asking why and instead asked:

“Even though this happened, how can I respond with more love?”

By awakening the consciousness within my body, I was able to release the “need to know” and trust that, on a deeper level, I already do.

If you are feeling stuck because the lessons you think you’re “supposed” to be learning in life aren’t apparent, I invite you to bring it back to your body…and let go.

I know life can feel like a lot sometimes, but no matter how disconnected you feel from what the lessons are, you still have the choice to surrender and trust…and with that, an even deeper knowing is possible.

With love, always,

Sabrina

P.S.

In a recent “Soul Aligned w/Sabrina” episode on my IGTV channel, I shared 4 things to do when you get triggered and want to respond with love (you can check it out by clicking here). I hope the insights I share help you to recognize that every challenge is an opportunity to expand your heart and your capacity to love, no matter how triggering it might be.

Are you living your life purpose?

Are you living your life purpose?

Life purpose can feel like such a BIG and heavy concept, filled with the potential for missteps and regret…how can we live life on purpose when we don’t feel we know what that really is?

What if we simplified it?

What if our purpose wasn’t based on one job or business or relationship or choice for that matter, but rather tuning in and making choices aligned with our intuition as often as we can?

I don’t believe there is “one true path” for any of us, but rather a multitude of possibilities that can help us achieve what we came to achieve: to make our unique mark on the world by how we live and how we love.

Unfortunately, I feel many of us get caught in the trap of obsessing over our impact through the work we do.

Let me preface this by saying that I DO believe the work we do is important, but more important than WHAT we do is HOW we do it.

One of my favorite practices to gain perspective is guiding my clients to “conversations on your deathbed” (morbid, I know, but hear me out – and better yet, play along by clicking the video below for a 10ish minute meditation):

When you are on your deathbed, what kind of life would you rather look back on?

One filled with constant reaching, striving, and stressing?

Or one where you showed up, stretched yourself enough to grow (but not until you broke), and where you consistently returned to your soul’s wisdom and the things that really matter most?

Most would choose the latter.

Because this is it, folks, the ONE version of this life…I may believe in past and future lives, but they will never look like this one.

So where in your life are you operating backward, obsessing over getting it all right, and how will you commit to letting your SOUL lead instead?

State it, share it, and keep committing to it day after day after day. Because this is your life, and you deserve to experience your deepest joy and highest alignment right now.

As always, with love,

Sabrina

Dangerous Ideas

Dangerous Ideas

Dangerous Ideas

An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all.

~Oscar Wilde

I spent 4 hours at 30,000 feet today, on a plane enroute from LAX to Pittsburgh to visit my man, and, with my head literally in the clouds, I asked my intuition what message to share next with my tribe.

My intuition, smart as she is, led me to pick up the in-flight magazine Hemispheres to thumb through while enjoying my Roasted Salmon Nicoise Salad (the magazine was included in the flight – the meal was not, but worth every penny of its 15 dollar price-tag).

As I was skipping through the magazine, I stumbled upon an article titled “The Upside of Unspeakable Ideas.”

Intrigued?

Yes indeed.

It was a short piece describing an annual “Festival of Dangerous Ideas” whose aim is to “shock people out of their comfortable beliefs” via “ideas that go against mainstream opinion.”

Although topics such as “In Defense of Flogging” don’t stoke my fire, the concept of breaking through our comfortable shells certainly does.

Sometimes we know too much for our own good…or rather, think we know.

The assumptions we make are often validated with our experience because whether we realize it or not, we are subconsciously seeking proof (the famous self-fulfilling prophecy at work).

But what if we adopted a beginner’s mind with everything, acting as if we didn’t know best already?

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> When we question our assumptions, the possibilities become countless. <<Click to tweet

 

I began questioning my assumptions around what I believed I was capable of when I moved to LA by myself at 18, again when I embarked on a 7 year adventure in the world as an actress, and now as I show up every day ready to serve as a coach and healer.

I assumed I wouldn’t fit in in LA as a small-town girl from Oklahoma (breaking through that assumption by redefining what identity means to me), assumed only super-connected/super-hot/super-skinny girls got cast in films (breaking through that assumption by getting cast in several great indie films and eventually producing my own), and assumed that no one would be willing to pay me as a coach (I’m so fortunate that they have – and have experienced amazing changes as a result).

The more I realize how little I really know, the more I am open to embrace what I can possibly learn from the most unexpected places (that’s right Hemispheres magazine, I’m looking at you).

Over to you: What new and dangerous idea can you explore today that questions all assumptions you have around what is possible for your life?

 

P.S. In case you missed it last week, I announced my own dangerous idea – a FREE BONUS hour of one-on-one time with me throughout November (that’s buy one get one on all single sessions).

During these sessions, we get together and break through your assumptions and move toward new possibilities in your life…all while surrounding you with a ton of love and compassion.

Click the pic below to learn more about how I work and to get started: 

Give me Clarity

 

Note: The free one-hour bonus sessions are available to anyone who books a clarity session in November; if you’re not sure if I’m the right coach for you though, don’t hesitate to set up a free 15 minute Discovery Call to find out by clicking here.

Dream Meanings – Finding the Hidden Messages

Dream Meanings – Finding the Hidden Messages

Dream Meanings - Finding the Hidden Messages

Dreams are a part of the messages the Universe is sending us day in and day out, and recognizing our dream meanings can help to guide us in the choices we make in life.

Nighttime can be a powerful time of learning, of absorption and pure receptivity, as it then that we are able to step aside from our busyness of mind long enough to see, feel, hear, experience the possibilities of what is being offered to us.

It is also a powerful time to meld our left brain insights with right brain creative thinking, and tap back into the power of our imagination to solve our hairiest problems.

I’ve always been fascinated by dream meanings, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized I was seeking interpretations and answers in all the wrong places.

I was checking out dream dictionaries from the library in the hopes that the duck (or the box, or the cross) from my dreams was the same one that millions of others were seeing when they shut their eyes to rest.

Although I believe in the power of universal myths and symbols, I also knew that there was a missing link and that maybe, just maybe, my own background, beliefs, and soul’s journey were shading my dream symbols so that they were unique to my own experience.

So I started on a quest to find a better way, and I came upon The Silva Method’s dream interpretation techniques, which gave me a whole new set of tools for playing with those little gifts from my subconscious mind.

Here is my take on those steps that I have adapted to understand the dream meanings in my own life:

1. Set the intention to remember the dreams

I have spoken before about the power of intention, but simply put, it is putting in a direct order from your conscious mind to the subconscious to pay attention.

This doesn’t have to be complicated (simplicity is one of my core values after all!), so just say to yourself “Mind, I’d like you to remember my dreams tonight.”

You can even state the intention to dream about a particular solution if you’re so inclined…and then wait for the magic to happen :).

Note: if you don’t normally remember your dreams, it’s totally ok if this step takes a few nights – trust you ARE dreaming, and that you can remember them.

2. Keep a dream journal next to my bed – and use it

Again go for simplicity – jot down a snapshot of the characters and action but leave the analysis for the morning. This shouldn’t take more than a few minutes – and if you’re lucky, you’ll slip back into a new dream once done.

3. Put on your Freudian thinking cap, and tune into what each symbol could possibly mean

Do this the next day of course – all dreams will feel crazy if you try to interpret them in the middle of the night – and use that intuitive filter of yours to write out the first thing that pops into mind rather than what you think it “should” mean.

4. Create a personal dream dictionary

This is a bit of a bonus step, but if you really want to get to know what your subconscious mind (and soul!) are telling you, you need to pay attention to how the symbols show up in different dreams.

You can just take a blank notepad (or even one of those address books with the A to Z dividers already built in), then write the symbol at the top of the page with impressions of how you feel about the symbol underneath. For example, you might see a snake and write “Snake” at the top of the page; to some a snake might be frightening but to others it might make you feel curious…or gloriously naughty.

Or maybe you instantly think of a “snake” in your life – jot that person’s name down and ask your intuition if it’s guiding you toward or away from him or her (your body will tell you usually with a feeling of attraction or repulsion).

Key: don’t judge it, just write it.

5. Repeat

Over time you will begin to see the recurring symbols and patterns, and then, seemingly out of nowhere, the answer will make sense. This happens quicker for some things than others, but trust that if it is important, it will reveal itself and the connections will become clear.

 

Click to tweet!Click to tweet>> With focused intention & intuitive reflection, our dreams can become our nighttime problem solvers. <<Click to tweet

 

Of course, sometimes our symbols do have commonalities; for those, I stumbled upon this lovely little infographic to inspire your own interpretation of what might be going on in dreamland:

 

Making Sense of Dreams

I’d love to hear from you! In the comments below, share one of YOUR dreams – and the meaning you have created from it.

Infographic credit

 

Take What You Need

Take What You Need

Take What You Need

Every spiritual teacher will remind you of the virtues of giving, but how often are we reminded of the value in taking?

Taking so often implies greed & selfishness, two characteristics we understandably seek to avoid…but love can guide all of our actions, and the act of taking is no different.

So many of us feel drained physically and energetically because we are giving what we don’t have.

We are trying to carry the weight of the world – or at least that of our own personal “worlds” – on our shoulders, and we feel guilty when we take pause to recharge and ask our body and soul “what do you need?”

But the truth is, the Universe wants to shower us with gifts, and taking those gifts is simply our willingness to show up with an open heart and open hands to reach for what we desire. (more…)

Taking the Guilt out of Guilty Pleasures

Taking the Guilt out of Guilty Pleasures

Taking the Guilt out of Guilty Pleasures

A few months ago I treated myself to a retreat in the woods, with the intention of healing and inspiring new creations for my coaching practice.

Not only did I schedule in an amazing White Light healing from Belinda Davidson during my time unplugged, but I had also booked an intense energy-shifting massage from the host of my retreat.

Every attention to detail was paid from the warmth of the room to the richness of the music to the luscious scents of the oils, and I was in bliss as I felt shifts in both my physical and energy body while Randy worked his magic.

Then, the most interesting thing happened. (more…)