what to do when you feel like you’re not doing enough

what to do when you feel like you’re not doing enough

little girl and little boy running barefoot in grass

As I’m writing this, it’s the day before our son Miles’ 5th birthday, which is a day I remember not only as his entry into the world but also as my initiation into motherhood.

I don’t often share this, but I wasn’t one of those little girls who played with baby dolls as I dreamt of becoming a mother.

I was more prone to playing entrepreneur (charging my cousin to eat at our house at my “Pig Out” Cafe), trying my hand at activism (starting my own chapter of Kids for Saving Earth when I was still in elementary school), and making plans to own my own home with a lush backyard full of trees (growing up surrounded by nature in Oklahoma set the stage for this one).

So when I met the man who would later become my husband, a family man through and through, I thought that I had to choose between continuing down the path I had envisioned when I was little OR choose this new path, with diapers and parenting classes and room parent responsibilities as my sole focus.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that there was another path; one that allowed for the diapers AND my clients, the parenting classes AND speaking out for the causes that are important to me, the responsibilities to schools AND taking care of our home.

Full transparency: making this choice to create space for the both/and in my life isn’t always an easy one, and I have had more moments than I care to admit when I feel like I’m not doing any of it well, for my family OR for my career.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from juggling these responsibilities in my life (and from guiding many of my clients to do the same), it’s that beating myself up has never helped things; it only serves to keep us stuck and frankly, pretty miserable.

When our minds get fixated on all that we haven’t accomplished, how we’re handling things wrong, or what isn’t working in our lives, we quite literally don’t have the headspace for the magic that is always there.

On the other hand, when we stop to slow down and become a little more gentle with ourselves, we bring in an expansiveness to our energy that creates space to not only soothe our weary souls, but that also invites in creative solutions we might not have seen before.

Have you paid attention to the energy that was under the choices and actions you’ve taken in your life lately?

If not, I invite you to take a little time to do that today; soften your mind and bring a little more gentleness to your experience and notice how it shifts the choices you make for yourself and toward creating change in this world.

You are not alone…there is always love waiting for you in the stillness.

Believing in the power of you,



In case you missed it, or if you’ve made the conscious choice to step back from social media (a choice I support 100%, by the way!), I led a quick 4 minute guided HypnoReiki meditation in this week’s IGTV; you can watch it here, no Instagram account needed:

Click here for a 4 minute shot of HypnoReiki to soothe your mind and body


This inspiring talk by Elizabeth Gilbert on Facing Fear with Compassion couldn’t be more timely and was a salve for my soul; listen to it by clicking here.

do your habits support the vision of who you want to be in life?

do your habits support the vision of who you want to be in life?

sabrina running down hill in white sands new mexico

“Your identity emerges out of your habits…more precisely, your habits are how you embody your identity.”
-James Clear, Atomic Habits

When I first discovered James Clear’s book Atomic Habits last year, my brain was buzzing; this idea that we behave in ways that are aligned with who we believe ourselves to be wasn’t exactly new information, but the book presented this concept along with others in a way that clicked both intuitively and intellectually.

Beyond the book, however, what became clear to me was how important it was to take it back one step; to actually examine who we really believed ourselves to be before trying to change our behaviors.

Of course, it turns out many of those beliefs are found swimming under the surface of the unconscious.

Hypnosis and the other processes that I use in my own life and in my client work can certainly help you dive into this exploration more quickly, but you can begin uncovering these insights on your own.

Here are 6 steps to determine the habits you need to align your identity with who you want to be:

1. Anxiety is an intuition killer, so it helps to start by bringing yourself to a more relaxed state (yoga, meditation, breathwork, time in nature – there are so many ways to shift down, so I invite you to explore and find what works for YOU!)

2. Your brain is geared to answer questions, so lean into that natural ability and ask yourself “who do I believe myself to be?” so that your unconscious begins picking up on cues

3. Recognize that the language that your unconscious speaks is images, metaphors, and archetypes and then pay attention to where you notice these within yourself and the world around you

4. Write down what you notice and begin to formulate a clearer picture of who you believe yourself to be

5. Invite in your intuition and discern if who you believe yourself to be is who you DESIRE to be

6. If who you desire to be isn’t in alignment with who you believe yourself to be now, ask yourself how would you show up differently to affirm the identity of who you intend to become in this life?

The answer to THIS question will reveal the habits you want to change to begin showing up more consistently as the person you intend to be.

The unconscious isn’t always as mysterious as we believe it to be; sometimes just a bit of conscious attention can help us see what we need to see so that we can ultimately change what we’re ready to change.

And when you believe in your capacity to become the person you desire to be and start taking action toward that identity, you’ll find yourself proving it to be true in no time :).

the connection between giving and receiving (and the greatest gift you can give)

the connection between giving and receiving (and the greatest gift you can give)

It has been a lifelong journey (and I’m not “there” yet), but I have begun to recognize the necessity for balance when it comes to giving and receiving.

Yes, I LOVE to give – to my family, my friends, my clients, and my community – but oh how I love receiving too, whether that’s support, love, or the energetic flow of abundance the Universe sends my way.

And there does seem to be an energetic correlation between the two, one that I’ve noticed in my own life and my clients’ lives; the more that we give, in an open and balanced way, the more we receive in return.

But there is such a thing as giving the wrong gift..trust me, I’ve done this more often than I care to admit.

Case in point:

My amazing husband was having a hard day last week, and when we sat down on the couch together at the end of the night, I immediately became his coach-wife, giving him feedback that he most certainly didn’t ask for and definitely didn’t need.

In fact, what he wanted and needed most was simply my presence…to slow down long enough to be with him while he shared what was on his mind and in his heart.

When life speeds up, it becomes easy to want to take shortcuts to squeeze it all in, but those shortcuts ultimately short-change ourselves and our relationships with those whom we care the most about.

So my invitation to you today is to pause for a moment to ask yourself if you too have struggled with giving this gift to others lately…and beyond that, have you also forgotten to give YOURSELF this same gift of full presence too?

I would love to hear from you:

Who in your life can you offer the gift of more presence today, whether you choose to pay closer attention to your own experience or that of another

Email me or reply in the comments as you open yourself up to the gifts the Universe is sending back your way in return ❤️ 

the 3 words that changed my life

the 3 words that changed my life

3 powerful words


Words are powerful.

They are bridges that connect us to one another, but they also carry weight in the conversations we hold with ourselves.

Most of our self-talk is unconscious, based on the questions we have asked and stories we have told ourselves that have woven into patterns over time (some, empowering; some, not so much).

I was reminded of this just recently as I was graciously introduced by Nicole Lee in her Inclusive Life Accelerator to LaTosha Brown, an amazing speaker, activist, and truthteller.

In Ms. Brown’s powerful presentation, she led with a question that spoke so clearly to my soul:

“Who are you BEING in the world?”


All of our DOING is irrelevent if we aren’t first aligned with our BEING.

So how do we stay consistently aligned with “who we be?”

I don’t have all of the answers, but there has been one phrase that has come together for me again and again over the years to guide me back home to my deepest knowing (click the button below to learn what those 3 words are):

I would love to hear from you:

What words will you choose to shift the way that you are showing up for yourself and more fully align with who you are being in life?

Choosing love, always,



I am a big believer in small actions making a big impact; here is a list compiled by Alexandra Franzen of 30 ways you can educate yourself, stand in solidarity with your BIPOC friends, fight racism, and build a better world.


I was also introduced to this beautiful song through the Accelerator; close your eyes, listen, and heal.



a meditation to help you focus on what matters most

a meditation to help you focus on what matters most

how to focus on what matters

Creating a soul aligned life requires focus, but what to focus on in any given moment can elude us when we’re looking outside ourselves for the answers.

Where we get tripped up is ego takes the “formulas for success” that we see outside of ourselves in other people’s lives – and then it makes us feel bad when our process and journey don’t match.

This is especially tricky in times like these, where we are so plugged into social media and the “appearances” of success, reinforced with every scroll and click.

Trust me, I fall into this trap almost every day. When I’m not being mindful, my monkey mind begins its endless chatter of how I’m not doing enough and that if I only worked harder, I could have ALL. THE. THINGS.

But when I wake up (and thankfully, I almost always do before too long), I remember that it’s less about having it all and more about experiencing the fullness of what my unique life has to offer in any given moment…even, and especially, if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

So how do we get there? By focusing on what’s important in our lives, moment by moment by moment.

Follow along with today’s guided meditation to go within and learn a process to re-focus on what’s most important in your life:

I would love to hear from you:

What is most calling for your focus and attention right now, in this moment?

Sending big love,



If you need deeper support to move through heavy emotions so that you can tap into your inner resilience, I invite you to book a “Get Calm” session with me today (now a full hour long!). Details can be found at http://sabrinabolin.com/getcalm.

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